There's this moment in my conversation with Melanie where I found myself admitting something I'd never said out loud before: that for years, I felt broken because I didn't want to sleep with every attractive woman I met. It's the kind of confession that cuts through all the bullshit we tell ourselves about masculinity, and...
Here's the thing about unrequited love: we think it's about wanting someone we can't have, but it's actually about wanting something we're terrified to receive. I had a powerful conversation with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men about a pattern that used to run my life called the Super Crush. You know that woman...
When I think about the men in our community, I know there's a conversation we need to have that rarely gets the honest attention it deserves. That's exactly why I wanted to share my appearance on Melanie Curtin's podcast *Dear Men*, where I opened up ...
I just wrapped up a great conversation with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men, digging into this question that comes up all the time: Is it easier for men or women to get into a relationship? The short answer? It depends. On who, when, where, and what stage of life you're at. But we...
Most men think porn is about pleasure, but here's what I discovered after years of struggling with it myself: it's actually a regulation tool, a way to numb out and avoid the uncomfortable realities of life. I shared this insight during my conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men, where we dove deep...
There's a story I shared with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men that stopped me cold when I first recognized it in myself. I was talking to a client who'd just spent six months chasing a woman who kept pulling away, and as he described his relentless efforts to "break through her walls," I...
There was this moment in my conversation with Melanie Curtin where I found myself describing a relationship that made me cringe as the words left my mouth. I was telling her about dating someone who'd just moved to town with literally nothing, no job, no community, barely a place to live, and how I immediately...
Look, I get it. You've probably heard "do the work" thrown around so much it's starting to sound like spiritual bypassing bullshit. But here's why I had to break this down with Melanie on Dear Men: because the men in our community keep asking me what this actually means in practice, and frankly, most of...
Here's the paradox that traps so many conscious couples: the very personal growth work that makes you a better human being can quietly kill the erotic charge in your relationship. I got to explore this with Melanie Curtin and my wife Violet on the Dear Men podcast, diving into one of my favorite topics because...
When men tell me they're struggling with power in relationships, I know exactly what they mean because I've been there. That's why when Melanie Curtin invited me on Dear Men to explore this topic, I knew our community needed to hear this conversation. What made it even more valuable was having Violet join me, which...
I had a blast on Melanie's show talking about something that sounds so simple but is actually one of the most powerful practices a man can develop. Stillness. Not the fake, rigid kind where you're trying to hold it together, but the real, grounded presence that comes from actually being in your body and feeling...
I got to sit back on this podcast with Melanie and dig into something I love talking about, polarity and how it actually works in relationships. We covered a lot of ground, from the philosophy behind masculine and feminine energies to the super practical ways you can start using this in your relationship tonight. One...
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