After years of working with men who struggle to access their own power and set real boundaries, I've noticed something crucial that we rarely address in this work: the deep mistrust so many of us carry toward masculine energy itself. Not just our own masculine essence, but men in general. This conversation with Melanie hit...
There's a moment about halfway through my conversation with Dr. Steven Solomon where I found myself describing something I'd never said out loud before: lying on my back on a therapy room floor in my twenties, sobbing like a two-year-old and begging to be held. It was the first time I'd cried in years, maybe...
I just wrapped up a conversation on the SHORESIDE podcast about something I've been working with for years now: how men can actually start feeling their lives instead of just grinding through them. We talked about the reality that most guys grow up in a culture that basically teaches them to ignore everything happening inside....
Here's the tension that sits at the heart of every committed relationship: the very thing we think makes us good partners, constantly putting everyone else's needs before our own, is actually what destroys intimacy and trust. I got to sit down with Melanie Curtin on the Dear Men podcast to explore this paradox that I...
I had one of those conversations with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men that reminded me why we do this work. We dove into something that touches every man I know but gets whispered about in therapy offices instead of talked about openly: that place where you're so deep in the pit that even...
I had the chance to sit down with the Everyone Is Right podcast to talk about something that's been weighing on me lately. The pain of men, particularly in this cultural moment, and where that pain is actually going. We covered a lot of ground. The ranking of pain and how destructive it's become when...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes the crushing weight of carrying everything alone, where the armor of self-reliance becomes a prison instead of protection. I experienced that breaking point firsthand, and it led me to a powerful conversation with the ILLUMENATE podcast about men's work, belonging, and the transformative power of...
I just had an incredible conversation with Mandy Capehart on her podcast Restorative Grief. We got into something that's so vital for men, but rarely talked about with this kind of depth and honesty. We explored how most of us guys are trained from a young age to get outside of our bodies. Stop crying,...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes the thing he thought was helping him cope is actually keeping him trapped. I just got off an episode of Melanie Curtin's show, Dear Men, where Luke Adler and I dove into what we call the trifecta: weed, porn, and masturbation. Yeah, we went there,...
What does it actually cost a man to chase success the way we've been taught to chase it? That's the question Maya Diamond and I dove into during this conversation, and it led us through some territory that felt both uncomfortable and necessary. We explored purpose, relationships, money, and what it actually means to integrate...
I just finished recording with Melanie on her show Dear Men, and we ended up tackling some of the most damaging myths I see guys carrying around dating. We spent serious time on three big ones: this idea that perfect confidence is required to be attractive, the fear that approaching women is automatically creepy in...
When I sat down with Kevin for his show, I knew this conversation about men's groups would hit differently for the Evolutionary Men audience. You guys are already doing the inner work, already questioning the old paradigms, but I keep hearing from so many of you about feeling isolated in that journey. That's exactly why...
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