Here's the tension that tears at the heart of modern relationships: we're more connected than ever through technology, yet men are telling me they've never felt more disconnected from their partners. In my conversation with Melanie Curtin, we explored this paradox that's showing up constantly in my work. Men aren't primarily struggling with frequency of...
I've been working with men for years, and there's one wound that shows up in almost every conversation, every coaching session, every retreat I run. It's the father wound, and I knew the men in this community needed to hear this conversation with Melanie Curtin on Dear Men. Because here's what I've learned: you can...
In-person men's work will crack you open in ways that decades of traditional therapy cannot touch. I discovered this truth during my conversation with Melanie Curtin on her show, where we explored how gathering with other men in physical space creates a unique alchemy that online connection simply cannot replicate. We were preparing for a...
I recently sat down with Melanie Curtin for her show Dear Men, and we ended up diving deep into something I don't talk about enough publicly: how being an introvert has shaped my relationships, especially my marriage. As someone who's spent years figuring out how to honor my need for solitude while staying connected to...
Melanie and I ended up in one of those conversations that felt like we were naming something every guy knows but rarely talks about openly. We were exploring what happens when your relationship looks perfect from the outside but the bedroom has gone completely cold, and honestly, the insights that came out of our exchange...
What happens when the very patterns that helped us survive childhood become the exact things sabotaging our adult relationships? I was on Melanie's show diving into something that still hits me in the chest when I think about it: how our attachment styles shape everything in our partnerships. We went deep into emotional neglect and...
When Melanie Curtin and I sat down to record, she asked me about something I see destroying relationships daily: men who can't receive feedback from their partners without going into defense mode. What started as a conversation about communication quickly became an exploration of the deeper nervous system patterns that keep us armored when the...
All right. So on this episode with Melanie, we dove into something we've all experienced but rarely talk about directly: passive aggression. What it is, why we do it, and how to work with it in our relationships. For me, passive aggression shows up most when I'm under-resourced or haven't asked for what I need....
Working with men for years, you start to see patterns. The guys who transform, they're the ones who just keep showing up. They put in the reps. There's no magic formula, no shortcut. Some guys get there in eight months, others it takes three years. ...
As guys in my community dive deeper into their personal development, they keep hitting the same wall: they've learned to communicate better, they understand emotional intelligence, but when it comes to actually initiating intimacy with their long-term partner, they freeze up. So when Melanie Curtin invited me on her podcast Dear Men to unpack why...
I loved being back on Melanie's show to talk about something a lot of men struggle with but don't always want to look at. Weed and alcohol, right? The truth is, these aren't just substances we use for fun. For a lot of men, they're numbing agents. They help us not feel everything that's happening...
I had this incredible conversation with Melanie Curtin about my journey with plant medicines and psychedelics. We went deep on what these experiences have meant for my own healing and how they can be used as powerful tools for growth when approached with the right intention and container. I shared some of my most vulnerable...
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