There's a moment in my conversation with Melanie where she describes watching her client, a genuinely good-hearted man, trying to explain away his partner's explosive rage for the third time that week. He's sitting there, shoulders slumped, telling Melanie how maybe if he just communicated better, maybe if he was more patient, maybe if he...
Why do so many men who are successful in every other area of their lives feel completely defeated by dating apps? I got to explore this question with Melanie on her show Dear Men, diving into one of those topics that comes up constantly with the guys I work with. The reality is, dating apps...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes that being "nice" isn't actually nice at all. It's in that uncomfortable recognition that I sat down with Melanie to explore one of the most challenging connections I've encountered: how Nice Guy Syndrome creates the ...
There's this paradox every man faces: the very parts of ourselves we've learned to hide and suppress are exactly what we need to access if we want genuine aliveness and intimacy. I had a powerful conversation on the Man Alive podcast with Shayna about shadow work and why this contradiction sits at the heart of...
I just did an episode on Dear Men with Melanie Curtin about nervous system regulation in relationships. One of those conversations that felt really important, particularly for men who find themselves constantly trying to take care of their partner's emotional state while their own tank is running on empty. We talked about what regulation actually...
I had one of those conversations with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men that stayed with me long after we stopped recording. We kept circling back to this thing that's been showing up everywhere in my work lately: why is it so damn hard for men to simply ask their partners for what they...
What if the moments between your moments are actually where your relationship is won or lost? I got to talk with Melanie Curtin about something most men overlook but that makes a huge difference in our relationships: transitions. You know, those moments when we're shifting from one mode to another. Work to home. Solo time...
All right, and welcome back. I want to talk about something that came up on Melanie Curtin's podcast recently that really struck me. What is shadow work, and how does it make you sexier? I love this question because it gets right to the heart of something Luke Adler and I have been guiding men...
I loved getting into this conversation with Melanie about the different patterns we see in men, particularly what I call the Basic Bro and the Nice Guy. These aren't labels to box guys in. They're patterns I've seen over and over in my work, and ...
What happens to a man when the very foundation of his masculine identity is built on quicksand? I had a great conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men about what happens when you don't have solid masculine role models growing up. This is something so many men deal with, and frankly, it's shaped...
Here's the tension that showed up in my conversation with Melanie Curtin about polarizing with powerful women: we want to be the strong, grounded presence our partners need, yet our instinct to fix and solve often becomes the very thing that creates distance between us. It's this paradox where our masculine desire to provide solutions...
During my conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men, there was this moment where I found myself describing what I call "invisible loneliness" , that specific kind of isolation where a man can be at a dinner party, laughing with friends, even lying next to his partner in bed, and still feel completely...
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