There’s a moment in this conversation I still think about: a guy in one of my groups finally admits, out loud, that there was a stretch of his life where part of him thought about just checking out. Another man in the circle doesn’t try to fix it. He just...
There’s a version of the lone wolf that gets romanticized in movies and gym locker rooms and every joke about the guy who doesn’t need anybody. Here’s the actual biology of it. The lone wolf is the one that got kicked out of the pack, and he dies...
There’s a particular kind of quiet that happens when a man is surrounded by people and still feels completely alone, and I lived inside that quiet for a long time before I ever had a name for it. I sat down with Lisa Lacey on Notes from the Edge and we went...
There’s a client I mentioned in this conversation who spent a whole weekend on a ski trip with guys he’s known since he was five years old, right in the middle of a painful separation, and not one of them brought it up the entire time. He came home...
What happens when a man finally stops abandoning himself just to keep everyone around him comfortable? That question sits underneath most of what came up in this conversation, starting with my own story. I grew up in a family of neglect, not much physical touch, not...
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