THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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How to Repair After a Fight (with Jayson Gaddis)
In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
Offensive Love (with Luke Adler)
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to talk about offensive love, a phrase that came out of our shadow work group a year ago.
Performance Anxiety? Porn, Stress and Your Pelvic Floor
Performance anxiety in bed, whether it shows up as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, often starts somewhere you've probably never looked. Somatic sex educator Rahi Chun joins me to talk about porn, stress, and the tension your pelvic floor has been holding for years.
The Mistake Men Keep Making (with Dr. Daniel Ellenberg)
In this episode I talk with Dr. Daniel Ellenberg. He has directed men's groups for more than forty years and earned the Practitioner of the Year award from the American Psychological Association's division for the psychology of men.
Shadow Work to Save Your Relationship (with Luke Adler)
Going along to get along keeps the peace and hollows out your marriage. The implicit agreements quietly running your relationship, and what it takes to break one out loud.
Why You’re Stuck as a Man
You are working hard and nothing is moving. Two energetic habits burn your fuel and produce no motion, and one of them still feels like being a man.
What’s the Emotional Age of Your Anger? (with Alistair Moes)
When your anger fires, how old are you in that moment? Alistair Moes has spent 31 years on this, and on meeting conflict as the adult instead of the kid.
Shadow Work for Inspiration (with Luke Adler)
You can take hard criticism all day and deflect a compliment in half a second. The kink in the hose that blocks your life force, and what sits on the other side of it.
The Power in the Truth You’re Not Telling (with Shana James)
You hold the truth back because saying it feels like losing power. Shana James and I get into the posturing underneath that, and what honesty actually does to desire.
Daddy Has Tantrums Too
You snapped at your kid over something small and watched her face change. Where that charge comes from, and where to put it when your family is not the place.
Shadow Work for Regaining Your Power (with Luke Adler)
Nice guys go allergic to their own force, then wonder why nothing moves around them. The clog at your center, the father wound underneath it, and how to work it loose.
She Feels Your Tension Before She Feels Your Hands
She reads your body before your hand ever moves, and no technique covers for a tight one. What your breath and your jaw are telling her, and how to change the signal.
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