I was a teenager who froze every time a woman I liked walked into the room. Body tight, palms sweaty, brain completely offline. That’s where I start this conversation on Echo Chamber, because that freeze followed me into my twenties and it’s the reason I...
One of my clients came back from a three day ski trip with the buddies he’s known since childhood, right in the middle of his marriage falling apart, and only one of them asked what was going on. He came home lonelier than when he left. That story is basically...
Every time I hear a guy call vulnerability weak, or connecting with other men weak, what I’m actually hearing is fear talking. That’s it. I sat down with The Wisdom Movers to dig into why so many men are still stuck posturing their way through life, and...
I was in my mid-20s, still a virgin, numbed out on porn, and I didn’t have the first clue how to be in my own body. That’s where I started, and that’s the story I brought onto Born without a Choice this week, because I think a lot of men are living...
There are two ways men have learned to fail at masculinity, and most guys I work with have lived both of them. Either you’re the macho jerk, or you swing so hard away from that you land in what I call the new age wimp, all attunement and no spine, unable to set...
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