Most men I know aren’t lonely because they’re alone. They’re lonely because the relationships they have never go underneath the surface. That distinction matters more than almost anything else I talked about in this episode of The Divergence Room. We...
Eighty percent of men who died by suicide in one Canadian study had reached out for mental health support in the year before they died. They weren’t suffering in silence. Something else was missing. My read? Community. Belonging. Six to twelve guys who know your...
We don’t need less masculinity right now. We need more of it, healthy masculinity that doesn’t have to perform itself to exist. That’s what kept threading through this whole conversation. Because no matter where we went, from the provider narrative...
There’s a moment most men hit, sometimes at 26, sometimes at 46, where the numbness stops working. The alcohol, the work, the screen, all of it just stops being enough to keep the inner noise quiet. I sat down with the hosts of Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads...
Eighty percent of the information your brain needs in any given moment travels from the body upward. Not from the brain down. Which means most men, conditioned from a young age to override what they’re feeling, to push through, to stay in their heads, are...
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