A man can spend every Saturday with his buddies, watching the game, at ease on the outside, while his wife is weeks from walking out the door and he hasn’t said a word about it. Not because he doesn’t want to. Because he genuinely doesn’t know how....
The men most convinced they don’t need to be vulnerable are usually the most controlled by their fear of it. That was the through-line of my conversation on The Wisdom Transfer, and honestly, it’s something I’ve seen play out with thousands of guys...
There’s a version of being a good father that quietly hollows a man out. You’re providing, protecting, holding everything together, and somewhere along the way you let go of the very things that filled you up. Passions, friendships, your own interior life....
The man who can say “I’m not okay right now” is usually doing better than the man who insists he’s fine. That’s the paradox I kept coming back to in this conversation, and it cuts to something I see constantly in the men I work with....
I was 26 years old, on my back, arms in the air, bawling like I was two. Fifteen minutes into my first deeply facilitated men’s group, something came forward that years of talk therapy hadn’t touched. A deeply neglected part of me surfaced for the first...
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