Most men I know aren't lonely because they're alone. They're lonely because the relationships they have never go underneath the surface. That distinction matters more than almost anything else I talked about in this episode of The Divergence Room. We covered a lot in 31 minutes. The cultural conditioning that teaches boys to override what's...
Eighty percent of men who died by suicide in one Canadian study had reached out for mental health support in the year before they died. They weren't suffering in silence. Something else was missing. My read? Community. Belonging. Six to twelve guys who know your name, track your life, and notice when you don't show...
We don't need less masculinity right now. We need more of it, healthy masculinity that doesn't have to perform itself to exist. That's what kept threading through this whole conversation. Because no matter where we went, from the provider narrative men have been handed for generations, to the AI and automation shift that's about to...
There's a moment most men hit, sometimes at 26, sometimes at 46, where the numbness stops working. The alcohol, the work, the screen, all of it just stops being enough to keep the inner noise quiet. I sat down with the hosts of Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads during Men's Mental Health Month,...
The fear of coming off as creepy is one of the things that actually makes men come off as creepy. That's a big part of what Melanie and I got into on this episode of Dear Men, and it's something I see time and time again with the men I work with. We covered three...
Eighty percent of the information your brain needs in any given moment travels from the body upward. Not from the brain down. Which means most men, conditioned from a young age to override what they're feeling, to push through, to stay in their heads, are navigating their entire lives on 20% of the available data....
There's a moment that changed everything for me. I was in my first somatic men's group, probably 25 years old, about a year of talk therapy behind me that hadn't moved the needle much. The group's attention landed on me. Within 10 minutes I was on my back on the floor, hands shooting up toward...
What pulls you together sexually at the start and what keeps that pull alive over years are almost completely different animals. One is hormonal and automatic. The other is a fire you have to tend. I was on Melanie Curtin's Dear Men podcast to walk through the five biggest reasons relationships go sexless, and what...
Most men aren't struggling because they're not emotional. They're struggling because they're deeply emotional and have never received any real training on what to do with that. I got to dig into all of that on the Wellness Reimagined podcast, and we covered a lot of ground in 23 minutes. The man box and how...
Numbness isn't toughness. It makes men fragile, and most men have no idea. That reframe kept surfacing in this conversation with Jenny, and I think it's one more men need to actually sit with. We talked about how men get conditioned from a young age to override what's happening in their bodies. Mind over matter....
I'm lying on the floor of a therapy office, maybe 26 or 27 years old, arms shooting up into the air, crying harder than I've ever cried in my life, screaming "hold me, hold me, hold me." I sound like I'm two years old. That was the first moment I actually understood what had happened...
What if the reason she doesn't feel attracted to you has almost nothing to do with how you look and almost everything to do with what you're withholding from her? I sat with Melanie on Dear Men this week to dig into one of the most confusing pieces of feedback men get in dating: "You're...
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