The man who's trying hardest not to make her uncomfortable is often the one who makes her most uncomfortable. That's the paradox at the center of nice guy syndrome, and it's one I know from the inside. I sat down with the host of The Dating Chit to get into something I work with constantly:...
There's a version of a man most of us have never encountered. One who's fully here, not running some calculation in the background, not floating in his thoughts while half of him is somewhere else entirely. When you encounter that man, something in you relaxes. You trust him. You want to be around him. That's...
A man can spend every Saturday with his buddies, watching the game, at ease on the outside, while his wife is weeks from walking out the door and he hasn't said a word about it. Not because he doesn't want to. Because he genuinely doesn't know how. That's the loneliness I see most often in...
The men most convinced they don't need to be vulnerable are usually the most controlled by their fear of it. That was the through-line of my conversation on The Wisdom Transfer, and honestly, it's something I've seen play out with thousands of guys over the years. We got into why men end up so disconnected...
There's a version of being a good father that quietly hollows a man out. You're providing, protecting, holding everything together, and somewhere along the way you let go of the very things that filled you up. Passions, friendships, your own interior life. I see this pattern with hundreds of men, and what gets me every...
The man who can say "I'm not okay right now" is usually doing better than the man who insists he's fine. That's the paradox I kept coming back to in this conversation, and it cuts to something I see constantly in the men I work with. We've been taught from a young age that strength...
I was 26 years old, on my back, arms in the air, bawling like I was two. Fifteen minutes into my first deeply facilitated men's group, something came forward that years of talk therapy hadn't touched. A deeply neglected part of me surfaced for the first time. And it happened because I was being witnessed....
The guy who never cries, never asks for help, never shows weakness is not strong. He's fragile. He's built a whole identity around avoiding the very things that would actually free him. That was one of the truths that surfaced naturally in this conversation, and it runs through everything I shared about my own story....
You can spend a whole weekend with guys and still come home feeling completely alone. That was my life in my 20s, and I didn't understand why until I started doing the work. I sat down with the Health Fact podcast for close to an hour to talk about what's actually driving men's mental health...
There's a moment when your partner's voice rises and something in your chest locks up. You go quiet. She reads the quiet as not caring. She pushes harder. You go quieter. The whole thing escalates into something neither of you wanted, and you're not even sure how you got there. Melanie and I went deep...
The most dangerous thing we teach boys isn't violence. It's that what's happening inside their bodies doesn't matter. I sat down with Reah Hagues to talk about something I see play out over and over in the men I work with, and something that started way earlier than most guys realize. The suppression starts young....
There's a paradox sitting at the center of the male crisis right now. The things that would most help men are exactly the things most men have been taught to avoid their whole lives. This was Part 5b of an ongoing conversation on A Step Ahead Tutoring Services, and we got into the numbers first...
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