I had one of those conversations recently that felt like two puzzle pieces clicking together. Melanie Curtin invited me onto her podcast Dear Men to respond to her "GuyTalk" episode, where she'd interviewed women about what they actually want from men in relationships. As I listened to their answers, I kept nodding because honestly, nothing...
There's this moment about halfway through my conversation with Melanie where I'm explaining how low testosterone doesn't just make you tired, it makes you want to disappear entirely, and I watch her face change as she connects the dots between stress, overwhelm, and what's happening hormonally in men's bodies. That's when I knew we were...
I had a conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men about something pretty much every guy I work with deals with at some point: getting over an ex. And honestly, it brought up a lot for me thinking back on my own experiences with breakup pain. We talked about how guys often try...
There's a moment about halfway through my conversation with Melanie where she stops mid-sentence and says, "Wait, but what if the woman makes significantly more money than the man?" And suddenly this question that seemed straightforward, who pays on dates, cracked wide open into something much more complex. We both started laughing because we realized...
I realized something about a decade ago that totally shifted how I approached dating. I was exhausted, swiping through apps, going on dates I wasn't even excited about, just hoping something would work out. The problem wasn't the apps or the women, it was me. I had no idea what I actually wanted. That year...
I just wrapped up a conversation with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men, and we spent the whole hour digging into purpose. You know, the thing that keeps so many guys up at night. What I loved about this talk was getting real about the pressure men feel around purpose. There's this obsession, particularly...
I had one of those conversations with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men that kept circling back to the same thorny question: why do so many couples lose their spark the moment they move in together? We kept unpacking this thing I see all the time with the guys I work with, this dance...
The pickup artist world promises connection but actually teaches men to avoid it entirely. That's the counterintuitive insight I explored with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men, diving deep into my own history with that scene and what it ultimately revealed about authentic relating. We unpacked how I first discovered the pickup community in...
All right, I just wrapped up a conversation with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men, and we dove deep into a pattern I see all the time with guys. The white knight syndrome, this compulsion to rescue women who aren't actually available or ready for healthy relationship. I got pretty vulnerable about my own...
I appeared on Melanie Curtin's podcast "Dear Men" back in 2018, and we got into some real territory around dating, nice guy patterns, and what it actually takes to show up with women. This conversation covers a lot of ground I don't always talk about publicly. We explored my journey from total dating inexperience through...
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