What happens when the most intoxicating sexual connection of your life is with someone who's absolutely wrong for you? I explored this question with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men, diving into that phenomenon so many guys experience but rarely discuss openly. You know exactly what I'm talking about: the sex that's completely off...
All right, and welcome back. I was on Melanie Curtin's show Dear Men talking about whether guys can have female friends when they're in a relationship. It's a question I get from a lot of men I work with, especially guys who are really concerned about their partner's well-being and want to do things right....
There's a moment in every man's life where he looks around his own home and realizes he's living like a stranger. The woman he married feels miles away, the bedroom has become a wasteland, and he's carrying the weight of trying to save something that feels like it's already over. I had a powerful conversation...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes he's carrying a secret that feels too heavy to share, too shameful to admit, and too defining to ignore. For me, that secret was being a virgin until 26. I recently opened up about this on Melanie Curtin's podcast Dear Men, diving into territory I...
Most men think they're being helpful when they rush to fix their partner's emotions, but here's what I've learned after years of working with couples: that impulse to immediately soothe, explain, or defend is actually what kills intimacy. I explored this counterintuitive truth recently on Melanie Curtin's podcast Dear Men, diving into why so many...
There's a moment on Melanie Curtin's podcast where I found myself talking about watching my parents' marriage slowly die over decades, and how that shaped everything I thought I knew about love and commitment. We were diving deep into one of the most brutal questions men face: Should you stay together for the kids? This...
Here's the thing that's going to challenge everything you think you know about being creepy: the very fear of being creepy is often what makes men actually seem creepy in the first place. I discovered this counterintuitive truth during my conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast, where we explored how the internal war most...
I had the chance to sit down with Melanie Curtin and my wife Violet on her podcast Dear Men to talk about something that comes up constantly in my work with men. The difference between a healthy feminine storm and actual abuse in relationship. This is tricky territory for a lot of guys. I see...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes he's been lying to himself about being "just friends" with someone he's attracted to. I got to join Melanie on her show to talk about something that comes up constantly with the guys I work with: Should you stay friends with a woman you're attracted...
I got to dive into something on Melanie's podcast that's been coming up a lot in my work with men lately: how being too respectful with your language, especially around sex and desire, can actually kill attraction. We got into the nice guy trap around ...
I sat down with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men and we dove deep into something that's probably sabotaging more relationships than most guys realize. We talked about covert contracts, those invisible agreements we make in our heads without ever speaking them out loud. What struck me during our conversation was how universal this...
Melanie and I sat down with my wife Violet, and what started as a conversation about relationships quickly became something we probably should have talked about years ago. We found ourselves wrestling with one of those uncomfortable truths that couples dance around: what happens when one person is committed to healing and growth, and the...
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