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422: Want MORE from your love life? 3 ways to grow past Nice Guy Syndrome | Dear Men

There's a particular kind of hell in trying really fucking hard and still not winning anywhere, and that's exactly where so many nice guys live. It's deadening and frustrating at the same time, like a tea kettle that's vibrating but never actually lets off steam. I got into that with Melanie Curtin on this episode...

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422: Want MORE from your love life? 3 ways to grow past Nice Guy Syndrome | Dear Men

420: ‘I know what I need to do … I just don’t do it.’ | Dear Men

There was a stretch of my life, decades actually, where I knew exactly what I needed to change and still went to bed every night having done nothing about it. That gap between knowing and doing is what I dig into with Melanie Curtin on this episode of Dear Men, and it's a pattern I...

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420: ‘I know what I need to do … I just don’t do it.’ | Dear Men

419: 3 ways AI can help your love life (and 3 ways it can f*** it up) | Dear Men

The most important question about AI and your relationship isn't whether to use it. It's where the thought or feeling originates. That distinction is at the center of this conversation with Melanie Curtin on our latest episode on the Dear Men Podcast. We went deep on what AI can genuinely do for your love life,...

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419: 3 ways AI can help your love life (and 3 ways it can f*** it up) | Dear Men

417: Top 3 ways to NOT come off as creepy | Dear Men

The fear of coming off as creepy is one of the things that actually makes men come off as creepy. That's a big part of what Melanie and I got into on this episode of Dear Men, and it's something I see time and time again with the men I work with. We covered three...

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417: Top 3 ways to NOT come off as creepy | Dear Men

415: The 5 biggest reasons relationships go sexless … and what to do | Dear Men

What pulls you together sexually at the start and what keeps that pull alive over years are almost completely different animals. One is hormonal and automatic. The other is a fire you have to tend. I was on Melanie Curtin's Dear Men podcast to walk through the five biggest reasons relationships go sexless, and what...

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415: The 5 biggest reasons relationships go sexless … and what to do | Dear Men

414: What to do with, ‘You’re great! … I just don’t feel attracted to you.’ | Dear Men

What if the reason she doesn't feel attracted to you has almost nothing to do with how you look and almost everything to do with what you're withholding from her? I sat with Melanie on Dear Men this week to dig into one of the most confusing pieces of feedback men get in dating: "You're...

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414: What to do with, ‘You’re great! … I just don’t feel attracted to you.’ | Dear Men

410: Does her emotional intensity overwhelm you? | Dear Men

There's a moment when your partner's voice rises and something in your chest locks up. You go quiet. She reads the quiet as not caring. She pushes harder. You go quieter. The whole thing escalates into something neither of you wanted, and you're not even sure how you got there. Melanie and I went deep...

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410: Does her emotional intensity overwhelm you? | Dear Men

405: You’ll be empty nesters soon. What’ll happen to the marriage? | Dear Men

In this episode, Melanie and I dig into something that quietly haunts a lot of men in long-term relationships: What happens to the marriage when the kids leave? We talk about the slow drift from soul connection to role management, why "good enough" isn't enough, ...

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405: You’ll be empty nesters soon. What’ll happen to the marriage? | Dear Men

396: Why your wife doesn’t want to have sex with you (anymore) | Dear Men

All right, and welcome back. I just did an episode with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men, and we broke down the real reasons your wife might not want to have sex with you anymore. Not the surface stuff, the actual underlying patterns that kill sexual connection in long-term relationships. We walked through five...

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396: Why your wife doesn’t want to have sex with you (anymore) | Dear Men

394: Why is polarity so critical for attraction? | Dear Men

If you're tired of intellectual concepts about masculine presence that sound great in theory but fall apart when you're actually with a woman, this conversation with Melanie Curtin is exactly what you need to hear. I brought her on because I know most men in our community have read about polarity, maybe even studied David...

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394: Why is polarity so critical for attraction? | Dear Men

392: Why is it so hard to quit porn!? | Dear Men

All right, so I just got to talk with Melanie Curtin about porn and men, and wow, this is such a deep topic. We covered a lot of ground, from why it's so damn hard to quit to what's actually happening underneath the behavior itself. You know, the thing is, most men I work with...

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392: Why is it so hard to quit porn!? | Dear Men

389: 8 reasons why it’s so hard for men to let go of relationships that aren’t working | Dear Men

I just wrapped up a conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men, digging into why it's so damn hard for men to leave relationships that clearly aren't working. We covered a lot of ground, from the terror of being alone to the identity ...

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