Enjoy these 29+ hours of powerful podcast episodes about what it takes for modern men to show up as healthy leaders in intimate relationships. Listen below or click the spotify playlist to queue them all up for a long drive.
I had one of those conversations with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men that stayed with me long after we stopped recording. We kept circling back to this thing that's been showing up everywhere in my work lately: why is it so damn hard for men to simply ask their partners for what they...
What if the moments between your moments are actually where your relationship is won or lost? I got to talk with Melanie Curtin about something most men overlook but that makes a huge difference in our relationships: transitions. You know, those moments when we're shifting from one mode to another. Work to home. Solo time...
All right, and welcome back. I want to talk about something that came up on Melanie Curtin's podcast recently that really struck me. What is shadow work, and how does it make you sexier? I love this question because it gets right to the heart of something Luke Adler and I have been guiding men...
I loved getting into this conversation with Melanie about the different patterns we see in men, particularly what I call the Basic Bro and the Nice Guy. These aren't labels to box guys in. They're patterns I've seen over and over in my work, and ...
What happens to a man when the very foundation of his masculine identity is built on quicksand? I had a great conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men about what happens when you don't have solid masculine role models growing up. This is something so many men deal with, and frankly, it's shaped...
Here's the tension that showed up in my conversation with Melanie Curtin about polarizing with powerful women: we want to be the strong, grounded presence our partners need, yet our instinct to fix and solve often becomes the very thing that creates distance between us. It's this paradox where our masculine desire to provide solutions...
During my conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men, there was this moment where I found myself describing what I call "invisible loneliness" , that specific kind of isolation where a man can be at a dinner party, laughing with friends, even lying next to his partner in bed, and still feel completely...
There's a moment in every man's life where he looks at the woman he's with and feels his chest tighten with that dreaded question: "Is she The One?" It's that nauseating spiral of doubt that keeps you up at night, overanalyzing every interaction, wondering if you're settling or if there's someone better waiting around the...
As a coach working with conscious men, I keep seeing the same pattern: guys who can talk for hours about emotional intelligence and healthy relationships, but who completely freeze up when it comes to actually claiming the woman they're with. That's exactly what I explored in my recent conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast...
The biggest lie most relationship advice tells you is that men and women should meet in the middle, become more alike, share everything equally. I was on Melanie Curtin's podcast Dear Men recently explaining why this well-intentioned advice is actually killing the spark in long-term relationships. We talked about one of the most common questions...
I had the honor of joining Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men to dive into a relationship pattern that trips up so many guys. That feeling of "I can never get it right with her." You know the one. You're trying, you're showing up, but somehow it's never enough. She's frustrated, you're defensive or...
What happens when the very skills that make you a rockstar at work become the exact things sabotaging your love life? I explored this question with Melanie Curtin on Dear Men, diving into something I see constantly with the guys I work with: how professional excellence can actually make dating harder. We dug into different...
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