Enjoy these 29+ hours of powerful podcast episodes about what it takes for modern men to show up as healthy leaders in intimate relationships. Listen below or click the spotify playlist to queue them all up for a long drive.
Here's the paradox every recovering nice guy faces: the moment you realize you need to stop being so "nice" is exactly when you discover that thinking your way out of it keeps you trapped in the very pattern you're trying to escape. I had a fascinating conversation with Melanie Curtin on Dear Men about what...
There's this moment Melanie Curtin and I unpacked on the Dear Men podcast where a guy sees a woman he's attracted to, his heart starts racing, and then within seconds this voice kicks in telling him he's not good enough, not experienced enough, not worthy ...
Here's the counterintuitive truth that marriage counselors won't tell you: your instinct to love your partner the way you want to be loved is actually sabotaging your relationship. I discovered this firsthand in my conversation with Melanie Curtin on Dear Men about love languages, where we unpacked how our default ways of giving love often...
I've been thinking a lot about men and body image lately. It's one of those topics that doesn't get enough airtime, and honestly, it's something I've struggled with my entire life. On this episode of Dear Men with Melanie Curtin, we got into the real deal about how men experience body shame, where it comes...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes he's reaching for sex not because he wants connection with his partner, but because he needs to escape the chaos in his head. I was on Melanie Curtin's podcast Dear Men recently exploring this exact territory, diving into whether men are using their partners for...
There's this moment about twenty minutes into my conversation with Melanie Curtin where I stopped mid-sentence and said something that surprised even me. We were talking about how to tell if a woman is interested, and I found myself saying "Look, if you're asking that question, you're already in the wrong headspace." The silence that...
Here's a counterintuitive truth that emerged from my recent conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men: the moments when your partner is succeeding while you're struggling aren't relationship killers. They're actually some of the most fertile ground for genuine masculine growth, even though ...
Here's the tension that tears at the heart of modern relationships: we're more connected than ever through technology, yet men are telling me they've never felt more disconnected from their partners. In my conversation with Melanie Curtin, we explored this paradox that's showing up constantly in my work. Men aren't primarily struggling with frequency of...
I've been working with men for years, and there's one wound that shows up in almost every conversation, every coaching session, every retreat I run. It's the father wound, and I knew the men in this community needed to hear this conversation with Melanie Curtin on Dear Men. Because here's what I've learned: you can...
In-person men's work will crack you open in ways that decades of traditional therapy cannot touch. I discovered this truth during my conversation with Melanie Curtin on her show, where we explored how gathering with other men in physical space creates a unique alchemy that online connection simply cannot replicate. We were preparing for a...
I recently sat down with Melanie Curtin for her show Dear Men, and we ended up diving deep into something I don't talk about enough publicly: how being an introvert has shaped my relationships, especially my marriage. As someone who's spent years figuring out how to honor my need for solitude while staying connected to...
Melanie and I ended up in one of those conversations that felt like we were naming something every guy knows but rarely talks about openly. We were exploring what happens when your relationship looks perfect from the outside but the bedroom has gone completely cold, and honestly, the insights that came out of our exchange...
I log anonymous usage events: a random session ID (stored in your
browser until you tap "Start fresh"), which chip you clicked, how
long responses take, what kinds of content I found for you,
whether you clicked a recommendation, and the general topic of
the conversation (like "divorce" or "purpose") picked from a
fixed list. The text of our conversation is not stored in my
analytics.
Your messages are processed by Anthropic's Claude AI to write my
replies. Our conversation history lives in your browser's local
storage, not on a server, and "Start fresh" erases it. I do
not set cookies, send anything to Google
Analytics, or store your IP address. Full details are in the
privacy policy.