Enjoy these 29+ hours of powerful podcast episodes about what it takes for modern men to show up as healthy leaders in intimate relationships. Listen below or click the spotify playlist to queue them all up for a long drive.
What happens when the very patterns that helped us survive childhood become the exact things sabotaging our adult relationships? I was on Melanie's show diving into something that still hits me in the chest when I think about it: how our attachment styles shape everything in our partnerships. We went deep into emotional neglect and...
When Melanie Curtin and I sat down to record, she asked me about something I see destroying relationships daily: men who can't receive feedback from their partners without going into defense mode. What started as a conversation about communication quickly became an exploration of the deeper nervous system patterns that keep us armored when the...
All right. So on this episode with Melanie, we dove into something we've all experienced but rarely talk about directly: passive aggression. What it is, why we do it, and how to work with it in our relationships. For me, passive aggression shows up most when I'm under-resourced or haven't asked for what I need....
Working with men for years, you start to see patterns. The guys who transform, they're the ones who just keep showing up. They put in the reps. There's no magic formula, no shortcut. Some guys get there in eight months, others it takes three years. ...
As guys in my community dive deeper into their personal development, they keep hitting the same wall: they've learned to communicate better, they understand emotional intelligence, but when it comes to actually initiating intimacy with their long-term partner, they freeze up. So when Melanie Curtin invited me on her podcast Dear Men to unpack why...
I loved being back on Melanie's show to talk about something a lot of men struggle with but don't always want to look at. Weed and alcohol, right? The truth is, these aren't just substances we use for fun. For a lot of men, they're numbing agents. They help us not feel everything that's happening...
I had this incredible conversation with Melanie Curtin about my journey with plant medicines and psychedelics. We went deep on what these experiences have meant for my own healing and how they can be used as powerful tools for growth when approached with the right intention and container. I shared some of my most vulnerable...
What happens when the most intoxicating sexual connection of your life is with someone who's absolutely wrong for you? I explored this question with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men, diving into that phenomenon so many guys experience but rarely discuss openly. You know exactly what I'm talking about: the sex that's completely off...
All right, and welcome back. I was on Melanie Curtin's show Dear Men talking about whether guys can have female friends when they're in a relationship. It's a question I get from a lot of men I work with, especially guys who are really concerned about their partner's well-being and want to do things right....
There's a moment in every man's life where he looks around his own home and realizes he's living like a stranger. The woman he married feels miles away, the bedroom has become a wasteland, and he's carrying the weight of trying to save something that feels like it's already over. I had a powerful conversation...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes he's carrying a secret that feels too heavy to share, too shameful to admit, and too defining to ignore. For me, that secret was being a virgin until 26. I recently opened up about this on Melanie Curtin's podcast Dear Men, diving into territory I...
Most men think they're being helpful when they rush to fix their partner's emotions, but here's what I've learned after years of working with couples: that impulse to immediately soothe, explain, or defend is actually what kills intimacy. I explored this counterintuitive truth recently on Melanie Curtin's podcast Dear Men, diving into why so many...
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