Enjoy these 29+ hours of powerful podcast episodes about what it takes for modern men to show up as healthy leaders in intimate relationships. Listen below or click the spotify playlist to queue them all up for a long drive.
The most devastating marriages aren't the ones without sex, they're the ones with duty sex. I was on Melanie Curtin's podcast recently talking about something that affects so many men I work with: the painful reality that your partner's body can be present while her desire, her heart, her full presence is completely absent. This...
I got to be part of something real on Melanie's show recently, and it hit on a topic that's been heavy on my heart: why so many men stay silent when they're drowning. Luke and I talked with Mel about this pattern we keep seeing. ...
Here's the paradox that sits at the heart of masculine conditioning: we're taught to be independent and self-reliant, yet so many of us are terrified of actually being alone with ourselves. I got to explore this contradiction with Melanie Curtin on her show Dear Men, talking with Luke Adler about something men don't discuss nearly...
What does it actually mean to be in your masculine when everything you've been told about masculinity feels either toxic or outdated? I had a great conversation with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men recently about this exact question, something I get asked about constantly. Honestly, it's one of those topics where there's a...
There's this moment about twenty minutes into my conversation with Melanie Curtin where she says something that made me physically lean back in my chair. She's describing how a client of hers realized he'd been holding his breath for thirty years every time his wife got emotional, and suddenly I'm thinking about every relationship I've...
As someone who's coached hundreds of men through relationship patterns, I knew I had to get on Dear Men with Melanie Curtin to address something I see destroying good men every single day: the unconscious addiction to being needed. This isn't just about "nice guys" or rescuing tendencies. It's about why so many evolved, capable...
I got asked what women really need from men these days, and it's a question that hits at something real. The rules have changed from what most of us were taught growing up, and a lot of guys are walking around confused about what it even means to be a man anymore. We dug into...
I appeared on Melanie Curtin's podcast Dear Men recently, and we got into something I don't talk about all the time but that's been a huge part of my journey. The late bloomer experience. For me, that meant being a virgin until 26 and a half. No sex, barely any kissing before college, and this...
After years of working with men who struggle to access their own power and set real boundaries, I've noticed something crucial that we rarely address in this work: the deep mistrust so many of us carry toward masculine energy itself. Not just our own masculine essence, but men in general. This conversation with Melanie hit...
Here's the tension that sits at the heart of every committed relationship: the very thing we think makes us good partners, constantly putting everyone else's needs before our own, is actually what destroys intimacy and trust. I got to sit down with Melanie Curtin on the Dear Men podcast to explore this paradox that I...
I had one of those conversations with Melanie Curtin on her podcast Dear Men that reminded me why we do this work. We dove into something that touches every man I know but gets whispered about in therapy offices instead of talked about openly: that place where you're so deep in the pit that even...
There's a moment in every man's life where he realizes the thing he thought was helping him cope is actually keeping him trapped. I just got off an episode of Melanie Curtin's show, Dear Men, where Luke Adler and I dove into what we call the trifecta: weed, porn, and masturbation. Yeah, we went there,...
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