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340: Top 3 traits we’ve seen Nice Guys develop to get what they want! | Dear Men

Melanie Curtin and I had one of those conversations where we kept looking at each other going, "Oh, that's exactly it." We were mapping out the top three traits that separate the Nice Guys who stay stuck from the ones who actually start getting what they want in relationships, sex, and life, and these patterns...

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340: Top 3 traits we’ve seen Nice Guys develop to get what they want! | Dear Men

336: Why does your woman poke you sometimes? What’s that about? | Dear Men

There's a moment in every man's relationship where he feels that familiar tightness in his chest, that instant defensive response when his partner's energy shifts toward him with what I call "the poke." I was on Melanie Curtin's podcast recently talking about this exact phenomenon that so many guys have experienced but maybe haven't named....

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336: Why does your woman poke you sometimes? What’s that about? | Dear Men

334: Are you needy? Here’s the difference between neediness and having needs | Dear Men

What if the very thing you think makes you weak as a man is actually pointing you toward your greatest strength? I had a great conversation with Melanie Curtin about something I see come up constantly with the men I work with: the difference between neediness and having needs. And honestly, this distinction has been...

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334: Are you needy? Here’s the difference between neediness and having needs | Dear Men

329: How do you stay grounded when she’s dysregulated (upset, stressed, anxious, angry, etc.)? | Dear Men

Here's the tension every man in relationship faces: you want to be there for your partner when she's upset, but the more you try to help, the more you both spiral. I had a great conversation with Melanie Curtin about this exact paradox, how our instinct to fix or absorb our partner's dysregulation actually makes...

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329: How do you stay grounded when she’s dysregulated (upset, stressed, anxious, angry, etc.)? | Dear Men

327: Transforming shame into power. Yes, it’s possible. (ft. Jason Lange & Luke Adler) | Dear Men

What happens when the very emotion we're most afraid to reveal is the exact thing creating the isolation we're desperately trying to avoid? I just got off a call with Melanie Curtin exploring this question through the lens of shame, one of those emotions that sits right at the core of so much of what...

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327: Transforming shame into power. Yes, it’s possible. (ft. Jason Lange & Luke Adler) | Dear Men

324: What does it mean to open a woman? | Dear Men

I just got back from an incredible conversation with Melanie Curtin on the Dear Men podcast, and we went deep on something I think gets misunderstood constantly: what it actually means to open a woman. Look, this isn't about seduction techniques or manipulation. What we're talking about is creating the conditions where another person feels...

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324: What does it mean to open a woman? | Dear Men

321: ‘I’m afraid to show interest until I’m willing to commit’ | Dear Men

There's a moment in every man's life where he finds himself standing at the edge of something deeper with someone, paralyzed by the weight of what it might mean. I got to join Melanie Curtin on Dear Men to talk about this exact fear I see come up constantly with the men I work with:...

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321: ‘I’m afraid to show interest until I’m willing to commit’ | Dear Men

320: From breakdown to breakthrough: how to recover from trauma | Dear Men

There's a moment in every man's life where the shell he's built around himself finally cracks, and everything he thought he knew about strength gets turned upside down. For me, that moment came during my first men's group experience, going from 30 years of being emotionally stuck to sobbing on my back in just 20...

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320: From breakdown to breakthrough: how to recover from trauma | Dear Men

319: ‘My relationship is war.’ (What do I do?) | Dear Men

Here's the thing about modern relationships that nobody wants to talk about: the very thing that's supposed to ground us and give us sanctuary can become the thing that keeps our nervous system in a constant state of activation. I had a powerful conversation with Melanie on Dear Men about this paradox I'm seeing more...

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319: ‘My relationship is war.’ (What do I do?) | Dear Men

317: What exactly IS codependency? (How do you know if you’re codependent?) | Dear Men

There was a moment in this conversation with Melanie Curtin where she said something that made me physically uncomfortable. She was describing how codependent partners will literally match their breathing to their partner's anxiety, and I realized I was doing exactly that, right there in ...

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317: What exactly IS codependency? (How do you know if you’re codependent?) | Dear Men

309: How do you know when it’s time to get a divorce? | Dear Men

I had one of those conversations with Melanie that I keep thinking about weeks later, the kind where you're discussing something most people whisper about behind closed doors: when do you actually know it's time to get a divorce? This conversation hit close to home because I work with so many guys wrestling with this...

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309: How do you know when it’s time to get a divorce? | Dear Men

308: Are you staying together for the kids? There may be another way to go. | Dear Men

There's a moment in every man's life where he stares at the ceiling at 2 AM, feeling the space between him and his partner like an ocean, wondering if staying for the kids is noble sacrifice or slow suffocation. I got to explore this agonizing territory on Melanie Curtin's show, diving into one of the...

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340: Top 3 traits we’ve seen Nice Guys develop to get what they want! | Dear Men

336: Why does your woman poke you sometimes? What’s that about? | Dear Men

334: Are you needy? Here’s the difference between neediness and having needs | Dear Men

329: How do you stay grounded when she’s dysregulated (upset, stressed, anxious, angry, etc.)? | Dear Men

327: Transforming shame into power. Yes, it’s possible. (ft. Jason Lange & Luke Adler) | Dear Men

324: What does it mean to open a woman? | Dear Men

321: ‘I’m afraid to show interest until I’m willing to commit’ | Dear Men

320: From breakdown to breakthrough: how to recover from trauma | Dear Men

319: ‘My relationship is war.’ (What do I do?) | Dear Men

317: What exactly IS codependency? (How do you know if you’re codependent?) | Dear Men

309: How do you know when it’s time to get a divorce? | Dear Men

308: Are you staying together for the kids? There may be another way to go. | Dear Men

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