In this episode, Melanie and I dig into something that quietly haunts a lot of men in long-term relationships: What happens to the marriage when the kids leave? We talk about the slow drift from soul connection to role management, why "good enough" isn't enough, and what it looks like to be proactive before the empty nest arrives.
I share a personal story about Violet and me trying to reconnect after our second kid, and why even people who do this professionally have to practice coming back to each other. We explore the gap between companionship and real partnership, and what men can do now to close it.
If you're tracking a flatness in your relationship, a sense that the glue holding things together is logistics and obligation rather than genuine connection, this episode is for you.
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Jason Lange: Yeah. I mean, this is one of those very tangible things where start now, don't wait. Right? It just it. It's. It. There's compounding interest in a sense to getting more relationally present and keeping the eye on the ball of, hey, what's actually happening in my marriage now. Because all the busyness, all the shuttling kids around, all of that is not going to last forever. And the more you start investing in each other to keep that act relationship, the love relationship, the soul relationship, not the roles to keep that alive and well tended now, the easier that transition is going to be. So, you know, even if it's still a couple years out, you can start now. If you're in the midst of it now, you can get help. And worst case scenario is that relationship might come to a close, but you might be able to create something better for yourself, your family and for everyone involved. Involved.
