THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
Tripp LanierHost, The New Man PodcastBrowse by what you’re working on
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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The Weakness of Macho Men
At some point your body fails in a way you cannot push through, and you fall back on whatever support you built beforehand. Why posturing is still fear wearing a hard face.
Pick a Lens for Your Year
A goal is something you can fail. A lens just changes what you notice for twelve months, and mine has reshaped decisions I never saw coming. How to pick yours.
Three Things Stealing Your Energy
Three drains account for most of the tiredness sleep does not touch, and holding your feelings in is one of them. What each one costs you and how to plug it.
From Toxic to Tonic Masculinity
One letter separates toxic from tonic. What masculine love looks like when it is generative, and how a man calls the best out of the people standing around him.
Shadow Work for the Chronically Driven
You cannot feel how tired you are, which is exactly why you keep going. Dr. Luke Adler and I on the numbness under chronic drive, and how sensation comes back.
Own Your Needs Without Being Needy
Neediness is a need with urgency on it, delivered sideways through hinting or nagging. How to say the thing straight so the right people move toward you.
Can Sex Keep Getting Better in Long-term Relationship?
You were told the sex fades after the wedding, and most couples around you confirm it. Violet Lange and I on what has kept ours getting better nine years in.
Our Three Biggest Fights as a Couple
Violet and I call our pattern the wall and the grenade. Three fights that nearly ended us, what was underneath each one, and how the repair actually happened.
Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates
Two hours a week is what most couples actually have for the relationship. Violet Lange and I on how to spend them so it grows instead of just gets maintained.
It’s Better to Be a Nice Guy Than to Be a Dick
Men's work loves to talk about killing the nice guy. He is already an upgrade on the man who came before him, and the work is to add power to him.
Master Fluidity to Master Your Life
Getting stuck in one state is what costs you, whether that state is fired up or shut down. Three kinds of fluidity to build, starting with your nervous system.
Stories From Men in the Heart of Shadow (Panel Discussion)
Three men who went through The Heart of Shadow talk about it from the inside. What they walked in carrying, what cracked, and what their lives look like now.
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