THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
Tripp LanierHost, The New Man PodcastBrowse by what you’re working on
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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The Heart of Shadow for Women (with Violet Lange & Luke Adler)
Men keep asking how to support the women in their lives through this work. Violet Lange, Dr. Luke Adler and I on what shadow work looks like when women do it.
How to Find the Right Couples Therapist (with Ryan Ginn)
If your therapist watches the two of you vent for fifty minutes and says little, that is not therapy. Ryan Ginn on the leadership to expect, and how to shop for it.
Shadow Work for When You Can’t Say What You Feel (with Luke Adler)
You know exactly what you feel and the words will not leave your body. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into the gap between knowing and saying, and how to shorten it.
Shadow Work for Better Sex (with Luke Adler)
If sex is your only release valve, it is carrying a job it cannot hold. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into arousal, relaxation, and where performance anxiety actually comes from.
What Season is Your Relationship In?
Your sex life can be in spring while your emotional connection sits in winter. Violet Lange and I walk the four seasons so you stop reading a hard stretch as a verdict.
Shadow Work for Anxiety & Worry (with Luke Adler)
Worry feels like productivity right up until you notice nothing got decided. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into living from the shoulders up, and the discharge patterns underneath it.
The Five Scariest Moments in Our Relationship (with Violet Lange)
Every long relationship has moments where both people quietly wonder if this is the end. Violet Lange and I name our five, what was underneath each one, and what got us through.
Why So Many Good Men Feel Empty
You built the life you were told would do it, and you still wake at three in the morning with an ache. Why men are this lonely now, and what actually feeds a man.
Navigating High-Conflict Divorce for Men (with Karen McMahon)
Staying for the kids can cost the kids more than leaving would. Karen McMahon on high conflict divorce, the guilt that freezes good men, and how to move without losing yourself.
Shock Absorbers for Your Life
You invest your money and let your relationships compound at zero. Why a circle of men is the shock absorber that decides how hard the potholes in your life actually hit.
Shadow Work for Depression (with Luke Adler)
Depression in men often has anger stuck underneath it with nowhere to go. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into the physiology of that stuckness and what starts the movement again.
Shadow Work for Nice Guys (with Luke Adler)
Nice guy runs deeper than personality. It is a survival response wired to the fear of losing connection, which is why reading another book about it never unwinds it.
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Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.