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Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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11 episodes matching The Nice Guy
The Power in the Truth You’re Not Telling (with Shana James)
You hold the truth back because saying it feels like losing power. Shana James and I get into the posturing underneath that, and what honesty actually does to desire.
Shadow Work for Regaining Your Power (with Luke Adler)
Nice guys go allergic to their own force, then wonder why nothing moves around them. The clog at your center, the father wound underneath it, and how to work it loose.
Navigating High-Conflict Divorce for Men (with Karen McMahon)
Staying for the kids can cost the kids more than leaving would. Karen McMahon on high conflict divorce, the guilt that freezes good men, and how to move without losing yourself.
Shadow Work for Nice Guys (with Luke Adler)
Nice guy runs deeper than personality. It is a survival response wired to the fear of losing connection, which is why reading another book about it never unwinds it.
No More Mr. Lone Wolf (with Dr. Robert Glover)
Dr. Robert Glover wrote the book that woke a lot of us up. He and I get into what nice guy costs you, and why a group of men does what solo work cannot.
It’s Better to Be a Nice Guy Than to Be a Dick
Men's work loves to talk about killing the nice guy. He is already an upgrade on the man who came before him, and the work is to add power to him.
The Difference Between Waiting and Resting
Nice guys wait for a signal from outside that never quite arrives. The difference between waiting for permission and resting until something inside you says it is time.
Integrity, Congruence, and Nice Guys
You can keep every promise you make and still be badly out of alignment inside. The difference between integrity and congruence, and why nice guys get caught right there.
What Creates Nice Guys
Gabor Mate says we are born needing attachment and needing authenticity. When a kid has to choose, he picks attachment, and that trade is where nice guy gets made.
“I had a pretty good childhood”
When a man tells me he had a pretty good childhood, I get curious. What is usually sitting underneath that sentence, and why nice guys reach for it so quickly.
She Wants to Trust You, Not Just Feel Safe With You
Nice guys work hard at making a woman feel safe and then wonder why nothing else happens. Safety and trust are different things, and she is waiting on the second.
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