THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
Featuring Dr. Robert Glover, Dr. Keith Witt, Tripp Lanier, Shana James, Amir Khalighi and Gethin Aldous.
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
Tripp LanierHost, The New Man PodcastBrowse by what you’re working on
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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Why You Feel Like You’re Not Driving Your Own Life
Job fine, family fine, and a dread on Sunday night you cannot attach to anything. Two compasses for finding your direction once school and career stop setting it for you.
Why Would She WANT to Have Sex With You?
You have asked why she does not want sex. You have probably never asked why she would. Responsive desire, her warm up sequence, and the one word that kills wanting.
How to Touch Women (with Elizabeth Anneka)
Wanting to please her is not the same as knowing how. Touch coach Elizabeth Anneka on the bullseye mismatch, and what breath does for touch that has gone stale.
Inside Folsom Prison: The Hardest Men, The Deepest Work (with Gethin Aldous)
Lifers at Folsom sit in circle and break open in front of each other. If those men can go there, the story that this work is soft does not survive.
Comfortably Numb or Fully Alive? The Power You Buried
Good, not great, fine. If that is your whole emotional range, the same clamp holding your grief down is holding your desire down, and you cannot read your way out.
The Nine Capacities of Evolutionary Men
Two men, same age and same income, and only one of them changes a room by walking into it. The nine capacities that account for the difference, taken one at a time.
Shadow Work for Accountability (with Luke Adler
Catharsis is the easy part. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into what has to come after the release, the repair it demands, and what it sounds like when your men call you forward.
Practice, Not Pickup (with Violet Lange)
You feel solid until a woman walks in and you freeze or bury your desire. Violet Lange and I get into why solo work cannot close that gap, and how men get reps.
The Provider Trap: What Scott Galloway Leaves Out
Provider, protector, procreator is real advice and it is half a map. The two quadrants Scott Galloway skips, your interior life and other men, are where the crisis actually lives.
Strength with Heart: Sensitivity as Superpower (with Keith Martin-Smith)
Keith Martin-Smith grew up where shutting down was what men did, and his father never once cried. Twenty years in circle later, what came out the other side of that.
How to Stop Freezing
Fight gets respect, flight at least looks like motion, and freeze just looks like you left the room. What happens in your body when your throat closes, and how to get moving again.
Say the Damn Thing: Intuitive Expression for Men (with Benjamin Roth & Jeff Raab)
Improv makes you commit to a choice before you have vetted it. Benjamin Roth and Jeff Raab on getting out of your head, and why being bad at things is a capacity.
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Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.