THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
Tripp LanierHost, The New Man PodcastBrowse by what you’re working on
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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Shadow Work Helps Digest Life
Dr. Luke Adler has run more than fifty thousand healing sessions in Chinese medicine. How the body digests experience, and what happens to your vitality when something stays undigested.
The Retreat, Workshop, or Ceremony is the Easy Part
The retreat cracks you open and then Monday morning arrives. Why the state fades without structure, and what integration actually asks of you once you are back home.
The Unique Pain of Debt
Debt has its own pain, whether it sits on a credit card, on your body, or in a garage you cannot park in. What paying mine down took, and where men stall.
Shadows, Sex, and Showing Up
Dr. Luke Adler and I drop the myth of the facilitator who has it all handled. Where we still lose sexual vitality, and where shame shows up at home.
How to Achieve More and Increase Your Impact
You set the goal because you are in pain, then miss it and prove the belief that caused the pain. Regulate the nervous system first and watch what becomes possible.
How to Stop Ruminating
Your mind runs the same loop, or your heart runs the same feeling, and neither one counts as thinking. Three ways to break the cycle instead of arguing with it.
Why Men Fear Being Vulnerable in Relationship (with Luke Adler)
You were told to open up, you did it, and her reaction was not what you expected. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what happens when a man brings feeling into the room.
The Difference Between Waiting and Resting
Nice guys wait for a signal from outside that never quite arrives. The difference between waiting for permission and resting until something inside you says it is time.
Leadership & Creating Shared Reality
Most conflict starts because two people are running different versions of the same situation. Making the implicit explicit is leadership, and it is also how safety gets built.
Why Evolutionary Men?
Almost every men's organization is named for one kind of man. This one is named for men, plural, because bootstraps have never been how a man actually grows.
Checking In VS Jerking Off (with Luke Adler!)
When the pressure builds you can discharge it alone in four minutes, or you can bring it to your men. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what each one does to you.
Integrity, Congruence, and Nice Guys
You can keep every promise you make and still be badly out of alignment inside. The difference between integrity and congruence, and why nice guys get caught right there.
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Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.