THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
Tripp LanierHost, The New Man PodcastBrowse by what you’re working on
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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Why Men Are So Hard on Themselves(with Luke Adler)
The voice that runs you down all day was learned somewhere, and it has a job it thinks it is doing. Dr. Luke Adler and I on where the harshness comes from.
What Creates Nice Guys
Gabor Mate says we are born needing attachment and needing authenticity. When a kid has to choose, he picks attachment, and that trade is where nice guy gets made.
Breaking Free from Stagnation (with Luke Adler)
Stuck has a physiology, and Dr. Luke Adler can tell you what stagnation does inside a body. Where the numbness starts, and what actually gets things moving again.
How to Attract Better Intimate Partners
You can add thirty pounds of muscle and keep attracting exactly the same partners. What actually changes who comes toward you, and who you find yourself wanting.
Precarious Manhood and the Manbox
Manhood gets treated as a status you can lose, so you spend your life defending it. The two scripts running that, and what happens once you can actually see them.
Men, Loneliness, and Social Isolation
Lacking deep connection carries a health risk on par with obesity, and most men will not say the word lonely out loud. Why the quality of connection beats the count.
One Way Men Keep Themselves Stuck
Weed, porn and a screen will change how you feel in ten minutes and change nothing by morning. Soothing versus healing, and how to tell which one you are doing.
The Importance of Doing Your Emotional Work
A lot of what you are calling stress is emotion you have not processed yet. Building the vocabulary to name what you feel, and what that does for your energy.
Three Reasons Men Join Men’s Groups
Some men arrive bleeding and just need the bleeding stopped. Three reasons men walk into a circle, and what each of them needs from the group once he is there.
One of the Awesome Powers of Men’s Group
Most men cannot say what they need until somebody asks and then waits. How a group of men gets you clear on what you actually want, at home and at work.
Attention, Tension, and the Masculine
Where your attention goes is a power you can learn to aim. The tension you carry is what makes that hard, and the two are wired together more than you think.
“I had a pretty good childhood”
When a man tells me he had a pretty good childhood, I get curious. What is usually sitting underneath that sentence, and why nice guys reach for it so quickly.
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Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.