THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
Tripp LanierHost, The New Man PodcastBrowse by what you’re working on
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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25 episodes matching Marriage & Long-Term
Why Men Fear Being Vulnerable in Relationship (with Luke Adler)
You were told to open up, you did it, and her reaction was not what you expected. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what happens when a man brings feeling into the room.
Leadership & Creating Shared Reality
Most conflict starts because two people are running different versions of the same situation. Making the implicit explicit is leadership, and it is also how safety gets built.
The Moment that Kills Many Intimate Relationships
Every couple crosses a threshold where polarity and intimacy swap places, and plenty of relationships end right there. What goes wrong at that moment, and what holds it together.
Shadow Work & Intimate Relationships (with Luke Adler)
The pain you have not owned gets handed to your partner in small daily installments. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what shadow work has done inside our own marriages.
Be a Lover Not a Lawyer
She tells you how something landed and you start quietly building your defense. What it takes to stay a lover in that moment instead of reaching for the case file.
Leading with Vulnerability
Vulnerability is authenticity plus risk, and without the risk it is just a weather report. What your partner is actually asking for, and how to bring it as leadership.
Co-Ed Work Matters Too (with Violet Lange)
Working on yourself with men will only take you so far, because the reps you need are with women in the room. Violet Lange on what co-ed practice builds.
Holding the Moment
Holding space gets said a lot and explained almost never. What it means to hold a moment instead of fixing it, and what that does inside an intimate relationship.
Be a Man She Can Push Into, Not a Man She Can Pushover
Nice guys shut their drive down and become something a partner can lean on the wrong way. How to be a man she can push into and meet something solid.
She Wants to Trust You, Not Just Feel Safe With You
Nice guys work hard at making a woman feel safe and then wonder why nothing else happens. Safety and trust are different things, and she is waiting on the second.
What the Feminine Wants More of From You Is What the World Wants More of From You
Whatever she keeps asking you for more of is the same thing your work is asking for. How to read the complaint at home as instruction for your purpose.
She Doesn’t Want to Be Your Mother-Lover
When your sense of being okay depends on her approval, she is carrying a job she never signed up for. What it takes to fill your own bucket.
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Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.