Men's Groups & Brotherhood

Jason Lange has been sitting in men's groups for over twenty years and has facilitated hundreds of them. A men's group is a set of men who gather on purpose, with their attention on each other rather than on a golf ball, a screen or a job. That is the whole distinction. Most male friendship runs through a third thing, which is why you can spend a weekend with your oldest friends and drive home without one person asking how you actually are. Most men feel that absence somewhere under the ribs long before they have language for it. A group puts the attention back where it went missing. You get support, which loves you exactly where you are, and you get challenge, which calls you past it. Most men have had plenty of the first and almost none of the second.

If you found this page, you are probably functioning fine and connected to almost nobody at depth. That is the common version, and it is what the culture trained into you rather than anything wrong with your character. "The Myth of the Lone Wolf" covers what isolation actually costs a man. "Men, Loneliness, and Social Isolation" puts numbers on it. "Building a Men's Group That Lasts for Life" and "Men's Group Experience" get practical, including why the Men's Group Experience is peer led, since paying a facilitator to hold your group quietly makes you a customer of it. The full archive is below.