THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
100,000 downloads · 164 episodes · since 2021
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
Tripp LanierHost, The New Man PodcastBrowse by what you’re working on
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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How to Handle Stress
Kelly McGonigal's research says your belief about stress changes what stress does to your body. Mindset and resources, and why other men are the resource most men skip.
The Father Energy We All Need
Support loves you exactly where you are. Challenge calls you past it. Most men got plenty of one and almost none of the other, and a group can supply it.
The Source of Your Sexual Power as a Man
Most men think it comes down to lasting longer. Your real sexual power sits in where you can hold your attention, which is trainable and shows up everywhere else.
The Problem With How Most Guys Relate to Each Other
Men connect through a third thing, the game or the car or the job, sitting shoulder to shoulder. What becomes available the first time you turn and face another man.
She Doesn’t Want to Be Your Mother-Lover
When your sense of being okay depends on her approval, she is carrying a job she never signed up for. What it takes to fill your own bucket.
One of the Biggest Mental Health Mistakes Men Make
Running the same thought for three hours is not feeling anything. The difference between ruminating and actually feeling it, and why so many men hide in their heads.
Slay Your Gurus
The guru model came out of a different culture and a different century. Practical questions to ask anyone you are about to hand your development to, including me.
You Attract Your Reciprocal
You attract your reciprocal, which puts the work squarely on your side of it. Why there is no shortcut around your own healing if you want better partners.
“I would never hit you. I would never hit our kids.”
I said that sentence to my wife and knew it was a lie as it left my mouth. What I found when I stopped pretending the impulse was not mine.
Feel Death Daily
Death is the one appointment on your calendar you cannot move. Keeping it in view daily is what moves a man from living safely to actually living free.
The Myth of the Lone Wolf
The wolf on its own is the one that got pushed out of the pack, and it rarely lasts long. What accountability from other men does for your reach.
Stop Trying to Get Rid of Parts of Yourself
You want the anger or the anxiety gone, and nobody in history has managed that. Moving from relating from a part to relating to it is where change starts.
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