The Heart of Shadow with Luke Adler
Dr. Luke Adler and I on what shadow actually is, how it shows up as numbness or stuckness in a man's life, and why facing it works better with other men.
The Heart of Shadow run: Jason and Dr. Luke Adler on shadow work, plus the panel and applied episodes from the program.
Dr. Luke Adler and I on what shadow actually is, how it shows up as numbness or stuckness in a man's life, and why facing it works better with other men.
More than half of men say they are not satisfied with the friendships they have, and the number keeps climbing. Dr. Luke Adler and I on why it gets harder with age.
Dr. Luke Adler and I spent five days on retreat doing our own work, then sat down and told each other what we found. Core level healing without the polish.
Every few years another teacher blows up an organization over sex he never looked at. Dr. Luke Adler and I on working your sexual charge before it works you.
Cracking open needs a container that will hold, which is why it almost never happens alone. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what makes a space safe enough for that.
Chasing enlightenment can become one more way to leave your own experience. Dr. Luke Adler and I on waking down into intimacy, which is what most men actually need.
Stuck has a physiology, and Dr. Luke Adler can tell you what stagnation does inside a body. Where the numbness starts, and what actually gets things moving again.
The voice that runs you down all day was learned somewhere, and it has a job it thinks it is doing. Dr. Luke Adler and I on where the harshness comes from.
The pain you have not owned gets handed to your partner in small daily installments. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what shadow work has done inside our own marriages.
You followed the script, it worked, and there is still an undercurrent you cannot name. Dr. Luke Adler and I on dropping below the noise and letting yourself feel it.
I just want to understand this is often a way to not feel it. Dr. Luke Adler and I on the fear that seals your head off from your heart and guts.
When the pressure builds you can discharge it alone in four minutes, or you can bring it to your men. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what each one does to you.
You were told to open up, you did it, and her reaction was not what you expected. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what happens when a man brings feeling into the room.
Dr. Luke Adler and I drop the myth of the facilitator who has it all handled. Where we still lose sexual vitality, and where shame shows up at home.
Dr. Luke Adler has run more than fifty thousand healing sessions in Chinese medicine. How the body digests experience, and what happens to your vitality when something stays undigested.
Three men who went through The Heart of Shadow talk about it from the inside. What they walked in carrying, what cracked, and what their lives look like now.
You cannot feel how tired you are, which is exactly why you keep going. Dr. Luke Adler and I on the numbness under chronic drive, and how sensation comes back.
Resilient means you survive the hit. Anti-fragile means the hit feeds you, and Dr. Luke Adler and I get into what has to be metabolized for that to become true.
The part of you that adapted to survive your family still runs the show under pressure. Dr. Luke Adler and I on why it only grows up through love from other men.
Dr. Luke Adler maps what blocked emotion does inside the body, and how a stagnant middle cuts a man off from love and from purpose at the same time.
The dating gap and the jobs numbers are the symptoms everybody is counting. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into the emotional illiteracy underneath them that nobody is measuring.
The cowboy alone on his own acreage is the image most of us were handed. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into what that fantasy costs you every time you refuse help.
The story that your manhood was taken from you is comforting, and it costs you your agency. Dr. Luke Adler and I on why victim masculinity sells so well right now.
Nice guy runs deeper than personality. It is a survival response wired to the fear of losing connection, which is why reading another book about it never unwinds it.
Depression in men often has anger stuck underneath it with nowhere to go. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into the physiology of that stuckness and what starts the movement again.
Worry feels like productivity right up until you notice nothing got decided. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into living from the shoulders up, and the discharge patterns underneath it.
If sex is your only release valve, it is carrying a job it cannot hold. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into arousal, relaxation, and where performance anxiety actually comes from.
You know exactly what you feel and the words will not leave your body. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into the gap between knowing and saying, and how to shorten it.
Men keep asking how to support the women in their lives through this work. Violet Lange, Dr. Luke Adler and I on what shadow work looks like when women do it.
Catharsis is the easy part. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into what has to come after the release, the repair it demands, and what it sounds like when your men call you forward.
Nice guys go allergic to their own force, then wonder why nothing moves around them. The clog at your center, the father wound underneath it, and how to work it loose.
You can take hard criticism all day and deflect a compliment in half a second. The kink in the hose that blocks your life force, and what sits on the other side of it.
Going along to get along keeps the peace and hollows out your marriage. The implicit agreements quietly running your relationship, and what it takes to break one out loud.
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to talk about offensive love, a phrase that came out of our shadow work group a year ago.
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Jason and Dr. Luke Adler run this work with a group of men over several months. The episodes above are the doorway; this is the room.
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