The Shame I Battled as a Virgin

This one’s personal, as I share on Dear Men about my experience as a late-bloomer / virgin, and the intense shame and fear I carried around as a result. It was something I didn’t share with my closest friends, and the anxiety only spiraled deeper the older I got. With each passing year, my fear of how a partner responded only deepened, and I was afraid my inexperience would scare potential sexual partners off.

Listen in to learn how I moved through the experience and what I WISH had known then.

The Power of Men’s Groups, Polarity, and the Evolution of Consciousness with Mark Van der Gaag

You’ve probably heard the little bumper sticker phrase that every crisis is also an opportunity. Like so much, our perspective often dictates what meaning we ascribe to our experiences.

Mark Van der Gaag recently sat down to chat with me during his Life Shift Summit to talk about many of the opportunities men are facing in these wild times. We cover a lot of ground, including masculine/feminine polarity, men’s group + men’s work, and how our consciousness continues to evolve well past adulthood.

Who has it easier getting into relationship? Men or Women?

I recently had a chat with Melanie of the Dear Men Podcast again to go over the results of a survey she created – discussing who has it easier when it comes to hetero dating and relationships, men or women? This is one where the grass always seems greener….and has a LOT to do with circumstances AND the amount of inner-work one has done. Listen in now – and what do you think?

Highway to the “Just Friends” Zone

Highway to the “Just Friends” Zone

Excited to share this fun parody video that breaks down how so many guys get stuck in the "just friends-zone". Created by Sex, Dating, and Relationship coach Melanie Curtin (who co-leads my transformational dating program, Pillars of Presence), may it bring some...

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Protect Her Heart

Protect Her Heart

"You're being too sensitive!" Have you ever been with a woman, be it a spouse, family member, or friend, and thought or said that phrase? It points to one of the most profound shifts that modern men can make when relating to women, and that's becoming aware of how...

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Getting Past the First Date

Getting Past the First Date

Are you tired of: "I'm just not feeling it.." Or "You're a really nice guy but..." or even ____silence____ It can be time-consuming, expensive, and totally demoralizing to get stuck on the rollercoaster of first dates that lead nowhere.  Even worse is when it...

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Dear Men Podcast: The Day I Outgrew Pickup

Dear Men Podcast: The Day I Outgrew Pickup

Back on another episode of the Dear Men Podcast with my friend and coaching partner Melanie Curtin! I got introduced to this work in 2006 when The Game was released, and quickly found that it wasn't the right approach for me. However, the pickup artist scene (PUA) is...

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Your Desire is a Gift

Your Desire is a Gift

One of the biggest struggles I see with many of the men I work with around dating & relationships is with their sexuality. Many of us nice guys have no desire to be "one of those guys" that's just out to get sex. As a result, we'll be uncomfortable with...

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Five Reasons You Should Join a Men’s Group NOW

Five Reasons You Should Join a Men’s Group NOW

Having spent over 20 years in the world of personal growth and development, I've tried a lot of modalities and practices.  Of everything  I've done, being part of a Men's Group has been hands down the most impactful thing on my life.  So much so,...

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Commit First and Claim Your Life

Commit First and Claim Your Life

The universe rewards decisiveness. Most men yearn to have a roadmap, plan, or clear path before moving forward in life, often epitomized by the belief I can't do X until I've figured out Y. This is a deadly belief that can keep us stuck for weeks, month, and even...

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Freedom is Magnetic

Freedom is Magnetic

How free do you feel in this moment? Are you available and appreciating what is? Or do you find yourself in tension and resistance, burdened by life and wishing things were different than they are? For us men, freedom is at the core of so much of what we value and...

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What I Learned From the Worst Date of My Life

What I Learned From the Worst Date of My Life

“This must be how natural it is for normal people”, I thought cheerily, as Amy and I continued grooving to the rock-reggae sounds of the band we were seeing in Denver. We’d had a few drinks, and I was being bolder than my usual self, dancing close with her throughout...

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Are Dating Apps Worth It?

Are Dating Apps Worth It?

One frequent question I get from guys over and over is about dating apps, "Should I be using them?" The answer is simple - no.......and.......yes. The truth is, modern dating apps can be a HUGE time sink, and are setup to be incredibly addictive. Make no mistake, most...

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A Call to Men

A Call to Men

Consider this a calling to all men. It's time to RISE. One of the most powerful men and badass healers I know recently anchored that term into my consciousness in a way that lit a fire in my being. That feeling only grew when I read this intense post by a friend of...

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