The Polarity of Nice Guys & Volatile Women

Ever experienced a powerful physical attraction to someone, but then found yourself chastised for a perceived mistake, and eventually tiptoeing around to avoid upsetting your partner? If this sounds something like your experience, this discussion could prove interesting. 

If you’re one of those who wrestle with setting firm, healthy boundaries, you may have identified a recurring trait in your dating and relationship history. 

Through our experiences in aiding men, what we’ve frequently observed is a distinct polarity. Men with ‘Nice Guy’ tendencies tend to attract women possessing traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These women are often vibrant, humorous, captivating, sharp-witted, pleasurable company…and yet, unpredictable. Being romantically involved with them can feel like riding an emotional roller coaster, filled with extreme highs and lows. 

The good news? We’ve witnessed a multitude of men transcend this cyclical pattern and mature beyond it. In this discussion, we delve into the intricacies of such a pattern, the possible reasons, and potential solutions. Tune into another episode of the Dear Men Podcast!