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Enjoy these 29+ hours of powerful podcast episodes about what it takes for modern men to show up as healthy leaders in intimate relationships. Listen below or click the spotify playlist to queue them all up for a long drive.
Shadow Work Can Transform Shame Into Power
In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, Luke Adler and I chat with Melanie Curtin about SHAME and how we’ve seen it show up in ourselves and our clients and how this destructive energy can be liberated into power and connection for us men.
The Problems with Polarity
Having been swimming in the waters of polarity, sexual yoga, and erotic friction for a while now, I was happy to have a chat with Melanie Curtin on the Dear Men Podcast about some of the problems that can surface in this work. This episode has lots of feedback from clients we’ve worked with, plus our own take’s on some of the issues we frequently see or experience!
Stepping Into Your Power as a Man
In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, Melanie Curtin and I chat about WTF it means for us to actually step into our power as men, how important that particularly is for nice guys, and share some huge wins from our clients demonstrated the shifts they’ve made.
Improve Your Relationship with Sexy & Sacred Whining!
Learn how even whining can be sacred and sexy in the healthiest of relationships!
How Use Dating Apps Consciously
Let’s face it, online dating can rough, especially for guys! The odds are often stacked against heterosexual man navigating the world of dating apps. In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, host Melanie Curtin and I share five tried-and-true tips to help you maintain your sanity and use the apps with consciousness and intent.
We’ve seen these suggestions work wonders for our clients, and they can do the same for you.
Why Nice Guys Attract Volatile Women: The Polarity Pattern Explained
Through our experiences in aiding men, what we’ve frequently observed is a distinct polarity. Men with ‘Nice Guy’ tendencies tend to attract women possessing traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These women are often vibrant, humorous, captivating, sharp-witted, pleasurable company…and yet, unpredictable. Being romantically involved with them can feel like riding an emotional roller coaster, filled with extreme highs and lows.
Nice Guy Syndrome and Cheating: The Connection You Need to Know
On this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, my co-coach Melanie Curtin and I talk about some of the ways nice guy syndrome relates to cheating behaviors (on both sides). We discuss the dual perspectives of cheating and being cheated on, highlighting the dilemma faced by ‘Nice Guys’ who often endure poor treatment in relationships.
Every Successful Relationship Requires These Two Things
An absolutely crucial component to any long term relationship which occur in a very unique polarity. In short, each partner has to both be willing to be GENEROUS when it comes to tending ot their partner’s nervous system, AND they must also take responsibility for their own nervous system to be able to show up to the relationship with the energy required for presence and connection. Any relationship where it’s just one partner giving is going to hit some bumpy roads sooner than later. Listen in to find out more!
How to Communicate Your Needs in a Relationship
In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, host Melanie Curtin and I discuss the challenges of expressing one’s needs and wants in a relationship. We explore the importance of open communication, making requests, and teaching our partners how to love us. We share some examples and suggestions for navigating difficult conversations and making adjustments in order to deepen connection and meet each other’s needs!
Power Polarity in Your Relationship by Mastering Transitions
Mastering transitions in dating and relationships is one of the most powerful ways to bring polarity to your relationship. Tune into another episode of the Dear Men podcast where host Melanie Curtin talk about this particularly important capacity of setting context and direction.
What is Shadow Work and How Does It Make You More Attractive
In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, my Heart of Shadow co-facilitator Luke Adler and I chat with host Melanie Curtin about what shadow work is, how it can improve our mental, emotional, and physical health, and how that in turn can make us more attractive lovers and friends.
The Integrated Masculine that Women Crave
In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, I again join host Melanie Curtin to discuss what we actually mean by women wanting a conscious and integrated man. In short they want something that goes beyond the basic bro or the nice guy. Listen now to find out more.
The Challenge of Not Having Good Male Role Models
One of the most challenging things for men these days can be the lack of healthy male role models in our lives. Interaction with other healthy and inspiring men is one of the primary ways we can learn what healthy masculinity is, and when those opportunities are absent from our lives it can have a major impact on our development.
Tune in to another episode of the Dear Men Podcast where host Melanie Curtin and I talk about this problem and what to do about it. (hint, Men’s Work!)
How to Create Chemistry, Connection, and Attraction with a Powerful Woman
In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, host (and co-coach of mine) Melanie Curtin and I discuss 5 ways to polarize a powerful woman, which is just a fancy way of saying how to create chemistry, connection, and attraction.
Loneliness Hits Men Harder
Did you know that “One in five American men who are unmarried and not in a romantic relationship report not having any close friends”?
Doubt & Relationship
Back on another episode of the Dear Men Podcast to chat with host Melanie Curtin about a pattern of ambivalence or doubt many men experience in relationship. How do you know if your partner is the real deal and worth staying with, or if it’s time to exit the relationship?
Want Your Relationship To Bloom? Do This!
If you’re a man that’s wanting to deepen your relationship, whether new or old, tune into this episode of the Dear Men Podcast where host Melanie Curtin and I explore what it means to truly claim a woman. This isn’t about some macho patriarchal domination/ownership thing, but about what it means to truly hold a loving partner in your attention in a way that makes her feel safe to be vulnerable and truly shine.
How to Re-polarize and Bring the Spark Back to a Relationship That’s Gone Flat
What happens when a long term relationship goes flat? You’re connecting, you’re friends, you get along, but there’s zero spark or erotic energy?
Almost all long term relationships have this problem at some point, and it’ll often fall into the bucket of either being a totally neutral relationship or even a reverse polarized one.
Melanie of the Dear Men Podcast and I break down this pattern, and what can be done to change course and bring the spark back to any relationship.
The Painful Relationship Pattern of Feeling Like Not Enough
Back with Melanie on the Dear Men Podcast to talk about one of the most painful patterns men can experience in relationship which centers around feeling like not being enough for our partners. In many hetereo relationships, the dance of “I’m not enough” felt by many men often collides with the feeling of “I’m too much” that’s often felt by women. In this episode we break down this pattern, share about where it’s shown up in our own relationships and those of our clients, and talk about steps to move beyond it.
How Your Job Can Make It Harder to Connect With Women
On this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, host Melanie Curtin and I discuss how what makes us great at certain professions can actually hinder our ability to connect with women or others in relationships. High intensity medical jobs, isolated and work from home coding jobs, and jobs with unpredictable schedules or high demand can impact our life in numerous ways.
Tune in now to learn how your job might be impacting your relationships, and what you can do about it!