Men face sexual stereotypes and pressure too…you’re not weird if you don’t want to sleep with everyone

There’s a lot of cultural expectation of how men are “supposed” to behave when it comes to sex. Listen in to this episode of the Dear Men podcast and host Melanie and I explore why that’s such a problem, and why just because we’re men we don’t have to have sex with everyone we meet.

How to Attract the Women You Want (Dear Men Podcast)

What does attachment style have to do with attraction? Why is it some of us are often hyper attracted to women that aren’t actually attracted to us or available back? In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, host Melanie and I go deep and talk about my personal experience with attraction, the work it took for me to change it, and what it takes to create a powerful relationship that goes beyond our attachment wounds.

The Somatic Secret to Dating & Attraction

One massive frustration and pain I often hear from guys that chat with me is that they just don't get it- they tell me they're solid guys in good enough shape with stable jobs - and yet they just can't seem to attract the women they really want. Usually it's not until...
How to Attract the Women You Want (Dear Men Podcast)

How to Attract the Women You Want (Dear Men Podcast)

What does attachment style have to do with attraction? Why is it some of us are often hyper attracted to women that aren’t actually attracted to us or available back? In this episode of the Dear Men Podcast, host Melanie and I go deep and talk about my personal experience with attraction, the work it took for me to change it, and what it takes to create a powerful relationship that goes beyond our attachment wounds.

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The Somatic Secret to Dating & Attraction

The Somatic Secret to Dating & Attraction

One massive frustration and pain I often hear from guys that chat with me is that they just don't get it- they tell me they're solid guys in good enough shape with stable jobs - and yet they just can't seem to attract the women they really want. Usually it's not until...

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The Shame I Battled as a Virgin

The Shame I Battled as a Virgin

This one’s personal, as I share on Dear Men about my experience as a late-bloomer / virgin, and the intense shame and fear I carried around as a result. It was something I didn’t share with my closest friends, and the anxiety only spiraled deeper the older I got. With each passing year, my fear of how a partner responded only deepened, and I was afraid my inexperience would scare potential sexual partners off.

Listen in to learn how I moved through the experience and what I WISH had known then.

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The Power of Men’s Groups, Polarity, and the Evolution of Consciousness with Mark Van der Gaag

You’ve probably heard the little bumper sticker phrase that every crisis is also an opportunity. Like so much, our perspective often dictates what meaning we ascribe to our experiences.

Mark Van der Gaag recently sat down to chat with me during his Life Shift Summit to talk about many of the opportunities men are facing in these wild times. We cover a lot of ground, including masculine/feminine polarity, men’s group + men’s work, and how our consciousness continues to evolve well past adulthood.

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Who has it easier getting into relationship? Men or Women?

Who has it easier getting into relationship? Men or Women?

I recently had a chat with Melanie of the Dear Men Podcast again to go over the results of a survey she created – discussing who has it easier when it comes to hetero dating and relationships, men or women? This is one where the grass always seems greener….and has a LOT to do with circumstances AND the amount of inner-work one has done. Listen in now – and what do you think?

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The Secret to Masculine Success is Not What You Think

The Secret to Masculine Success is Not What You Think

Whether it’s personal growth, creating a thriving relationship, or building a career of meaning and purpose, there’s one thing that more than anything else will determine the eventual outcome. The ability to RECOMMIT. Over my years of leading men’s groups and coaching...

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The Costs of Porn Addiction

The Costs of Porn Addiction

Porn is everywhere these days, and can impact our nervous systems and health and wellbeing in countless ways. Listen in to another episode of Dear Men to hear about my story of porn addiction, the costs it had on my life, and the road I took to outgrow it.

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The Divine Masculine via THE ROCK

The Divine Masculine via THE ROCK

The Divine Masculine calls out injustice and offers a hand to help others RISE.​ Surround yourself with men that call you out to rise each and every day - that offer you a hand when you're down and demand you to return to presence when you're gone. The healthy...

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Men’s Work Works – Believe Be Real Be Bold Podcast

Men’s Work Works – Believe Be Real Be Bold Podcast

I recently joined Dave Glaser on his podcast Believe Be Real Be Bold to talk about the power of men's work, and how it can impact dating and relationships. We also talk about the Enneagram and how being an Enneagram 9 shows up in my life! Give it a listen and let us...

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Grief and Loss with Matt Lozano

Grief and Loss with Matt Lozano

We all must learn to deal with grief and loss in our lives. Join me as I chat with Matt Lozano and talk about the stages of grief, the importance of doing our grief work, and the many ways we can be gentle with ourselves in these trying times. Learn more about Matt at...

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Slowing Down to Feel

Slowing Down to Feel

Ferris Bueller had it right: "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." Never before in history have we had so much "coming at us" every single day - texts, calls, emails, advertisements, appointments, jobs,...

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Evolving as a Man

Evolving as a Man

Excited to join the amazing Ernie Welsh and Trey Kauffman on their podcast The Mosaic Life. We cover a LOT of ground all focused on how men evolve. These are two amazing human beings doing some very kickass work in the midwest.

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The reason radiant women aren’t attracted to you

The reason radiant women aren’t attracted to you

It’s simple. You aren’t deep enough. It’s not about having six pack abs, the perfect hairline, a massive salary, or a fancy sports car. Those are all surface and shallow representations of what the feminine is really craving from the masculine: depth. What is depth?...

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Breaking Through Shadow with Chris Jerome

Breaking Through Shadow with Chris Jerome

What is Shadow work and why is it so important for men? How connected are the mind and body when it comes to our traumas? How does doing deep work in groups impact our nervous system? Listen as I chat with Chris Jerome, my co-facilitator for our deep dive weekends for...

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The thing that hurts the masculine the most

The thing that hurts the masculine the most

Even when just playing for fun, the masculine always prefers to win over losing because let's face it, it feels BETTER. When things don't go our way and something doesn't work out, it stings, be it in work, relationships, or our health. Those stings can stack up over...

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Stop chasing women and do this instead

Stop chasing women and do this instead

Neediness is one of the most UNATTRACTIVE qualities we can embody as men, and it's often present in subtle ways more than we realize. Humans are social creatures, and our nervous systems are WIRED for connection from top to bottom, and intimate relationships are one...

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The hidden force that drives many men into the friendzone

The hidden force that drives many men into the friendzone

One of the traps us nice guys fall into over and over again is getting stuck in the so called "friend zone". We're attracted to a woman, connect with her, and then our relational dynamic stays one in which we're seen as good guy, but not someone she necessarily thinks...

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