THE EVOLUTIONARY MEN PODCAST
Lead in life & love with head, heart, and guts
Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Authors, therapists, prison facilitators, and the people Jason does this work with. Click any face for their episodes.
Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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25 episodes matching Marriage & Long-Term
How to Repair After a Fight (with Jayson Gaddis)
In this episode I'm joined by Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, to talk about how to repair after a fight with your wife or partner.
Offensive Love (with Luke Adler)
In this episode I'm joined by Dr. Luke Adler to talk about offensive love, a phrase that came out of our shadow work group a year ago.
Shadow Work to Save Your Relationship (with Luke Adler)
Going along to get along keeps the peace and hollows out your marriage. The implicit agreements quietly running your relationship, and what it takes to break one out loud.
Why Would She WANT to Have Sex With You?
You have asked why she does not want sex. You have probably never asked why she would. Responsive desire, her warm up sequence, and the one word that kills wanting.
How to Find the Right Couples Therapist (with Ryan Ginn)
If your therapist watches the two of you vent for fifty minutes and says little, that is not therapy. Ryan Ginn on the leadership to expect, and how to shop for it.
What Season is Your Relationship In?
Your sex life can be in spring while your emotional connection sits in winter. Violet Lange and I walk the four seasons so you stop reading a hard stretch as a verdict.
The Five Scariest Moments in Our Relationship (with Violet Lange)
Every long relationship has moments where both people quietly wonder if this is the end. Violet Lange and I name our five, what was underneath each one, and what got us through.
Navigating High-Conflict Divorce for Men (with Karen McMahon)
Staying for the kids can cost the kids more than leaving would. Karen McMahon on high conflict divorce, the guilt that freezes good men, and how to move without losing yourself.
Can Sex Keep Getting Better in Long-term Relationship?
You were told the sex fades after the wedding, and most couples around you confirm it. Violet Lange and I on what has kept ours getting better nine years in.
Our Three Biggest Fights as a Couple
Violet and I call our pattern the wall and the grenade. Three fights that nearly ended us, what was underneath each one, and how the repair actually happened.
Evolutionary Couples & 12 Epic Dates
Two hours a week is what most couples actually have for the relationship. Violet Lange and I on how to spend them so it grows instead of just gets maintained.
Shadows, Sex, and Showing Up
Dr. Luke Adler and I drop the myth of the facilitator who has it all handled. Where we still lose sexual vitality, and where shame shows up at home.
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Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.