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Men’s guide Jason Lange on deepening your presence, clarifying your purpose, connecting with your power, and finding ease in dating and relationships. 164 episodes and 100,000 downloads.
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IF THE SEX STOPPED AND NEITHER OF YOU WILL SAY SO
Jason solo
IF YOU’VE SPENT YOUR LIFE BEING THE NICE ONE
with Dr. Robert Glover
IF YOUR HEAD RUNS THE SAME ARGUMENT AT 2AM
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IF NOBODY IN YOUR LIFE KNOWS WHAT YOU’RE ACTUALLY AFRAID OF
with Dr. Luke Adler
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Dr. Luke AdlerCo-facilitator, The Heart of Shadow
Violet LangeDating + Intimacy Coach
Alistair MoesFounder, Moose Anger Management
Amir KhalighiFounder, Embodied Masculine
Benjamin RothImproviser and creative consultant
David RomeroAir Force veteran and psychedelic facilitator
Dr. Daniel EllenbergFounder, Men and Boys Compassion Coalition
Dr. Keith WittIntegral psychologist and author
Dr. Robert GloverAuthor of No More Mr. Nice Guy
Elizabeth AnnekaTouch coach
Gethin AldousCo-director, The Work
Jayson GaddisAuthor of Getting to Zero, founder of The Relationship School
Jeff RaabTheater artist and voice teacher
Karen McMahonDivorce coach, Journey Beyond Divorce
Keith Martin-SmithZen priest and martial artist
Luke EntrupRites of passage guide
Melanie CurtinHost, Dear Men Podcast
Michael HoltFounder, Savage & Saint
Rahi ChunSomatic sex educator
Roy Arthur BlodgettNaturalist and poet
Ryan GinnCouples therapist
Shana JamesHost, Man Alive Podcast
Ted RiterFormer rabbi, spiritual guide and relationship coach
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The Heart of Shadow
Thirty-three episodes with Dr. Luke Adler working the same terrain the program works: what you disowned, where it runs you, and how it comes back. Listened to in order, it reads as a course.
33 EPISODES · 2022 TO NOW · JASON LANGE, DR. LUKE ADLER, VIOLET LANGE
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15 episodes matching Sex & Desire
Performance Anxiety? Porn, Stress and Your Pelvic Floor
Performance anxiety in bed, whether it shows up as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, often starts somewhere you've probably never looked. Somatic sex educator Rahi Chun joins me to talk about porn, stress, and the tension your pelvic floor has been holding for years.
She Feels Your Tension Before She Feels Your Hands
She reads your body before your hand ever moves, and no technique covers for a tight one. What your breath and your jaw are telling her, and how to change the signal.
Why Would She WANT to Have Sex With You?
You have asked why she does not want sex. You have probably never asked why she would. Responsive desire, her warm up sequence, and the one word that kills wanting.
How to Touch Women (with Elizabeth Anneka)
Wanting to please her is not the same as knowing how. Touch coach Elizabeth Anneka on the bullseye mismatch, and what breath does for touch that has gone stale.
Shadow Work for Better Sex (with Luke Adler)
If sex is your only release valve, it is carrying a job it cannot hold. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into arousal, relaxation, and where performance anxiety actually comes from.
Polarity is the Easy Part
You can learn the alpha drop in an afternoon. Your attachment wounds and your unfelt relational pain set the ceiling on erotic charge, and that is the slower work.
Can Sex Keep Getting Better in Long-term Relationship?
You were told the sex fades after the wedding, and most couples around you confirm it. Violet Lange and I on what has kept ours getting better nine years in.
Shadows, Sex, and Showing Up
Dr. Luke Adler and I drop the myth of the facilitator who has it all handled. Where we still lose sexual vitality, and where shame shows up at home.
Checking In VS Jerking Off (with Luke Adler!)
When the pressure builds you can discharge it alone in four minutes, or you can bring it to your men. Dr. Luke Adler and I on what each one does to you.
The Moment that Kills Many Intimate Relationships
Every couple crosses a threshold where polarity and intimacy swap places, and plenty of relationships end right there. What goes wrong at that moment, and what holds it together.
Take Charge of Your Sexual Charge (with Luke Adler)
Every few years another teacher blows up an organization over sex he never looked at. Dr. Luke Adler and I on working your sexual charge before it works you.
How to Talk About Sex in a Way That Opens Her With Melanie Curtin
Melanie Curtin has surveyed thousands of women about what actually happens in bed. How to bring up sex in a way that opens her instead of closing the conversation.
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