One of the most powerful ways to torpedo your life and wreck your well-being is one I’ve seen all too many men fall prey to (and certainly done myself), getting stuck in our heads. So what’s that actually mean? Being stuck in our heads mean our attention...
Back on another episode of the Dear Men Podcast with my friend and coaching partner Melanie Curtin! I got introduced to this work in 2006 when The Game was released, and quickly found that it wasn’t the right approach for me. However, the pickup artist scene...
One of the biggest struggles I see with many of the men I work with around dating & relationships is with their sexuality. Many of us nice guys have no desire to be “one of those guys” that’s just out to get sex. As a result, we’ll be...
“This must be how natural it is for normal people”, I thought cheerily, as Amy and I continued grooving to the rock-reggae sounds of the band we were seeing in Denver. We’d had a few drinks, and I was being bolder than my usual self, dancing close with her throughout...
Are dating apps worth it? For most of the men I work with, no, and then yes. The apps work for a man who is already grounded in himself, and they quietly cost the man who isn’t. The difference is not the app. It is what you bring to it. What the apps are built...
You can’t fix her. Most of us try anyway. She brings a complaint, a problem, a hard day, and within seconds we’re in problem-solving mode, jaw set, running logic at it. That instinct comes from one of the real gifts of masculine energy: structure, giving...
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