The Gift of Shame (with Dr. Keith Witt)
Shame carries information about what you actually value, and most men only know how to drown it. Dr. Keith Witt on working with it instead of running from it.
Shame & Self-Worth
Shame is a social emotion. It only forms in relationship, which means it only moves in relationship, and that one fact explains why you can sit with your shame alone in the car for fifteen years and feel exactly the same at the end of it. Guilt says you did something bad. Shame says you are something bad, and a man carrying it will quietly organize his entire life around never being found out. Jason Lange has watched hundreds of men say their worst thing out loud in a circle and hear other men answer, yeah, me too, and I still like you. What happens in the nervous system in that moment is release, and men feel it physically.
If you landed here, there is probably something you have never told anyone, and some part of you believes it disqualifies you from love or work or both. There is also a good chance the voice running you down all day does not originally sound like yours. "Claim Your Shame" covers what saying it out loud does that hiding never will. "The Gift of Shame" has Dr. Keith Witt on the information shame carries about what you actually value. "Why Men Are So Hard on Themselves" has Dr. Luke Adler and Jason on where the harshness got installed. Below is the archive.
Every Shame & Self-Worth episode
Shadows, Sex, and Showing Up
Dr. Luke Adler and I drop the myth of the facilitator who has it all handled. Where we still lose sexual vitality, and where shame shows up at home.
Moving Beyond Shame
Shame tells you the connection is gone for good, which is why you need somewhere to come back to after you blow it. What that place has to have in it.
Why Men Are So Hard on Themselves(with Luke Adler)
The voice that runs you down all day was learned somewhere, and it has a job it thinks it is doing. Dr. Luke Adler and I on where the harshness comes from.
Kryptonite for Men
Comparison runs from locker room measurements to somebody's vacation photos, and it has never once moved a man closer to what he wants. What to measure yourself against instead.
Claim Your Shame
Shame is a social emotion, which means it only forms in relationship and it only moves there too. What claiming it out loud does that hiding it never will.
The Most Powerful Tool for Transformation
The wounds around shame and trust were built in relationship, which is the only place they get repaired. Why relationship is the strongest tool for change you have.
WHEN LISTENING ISN’T ENOUGH
The work behind the podcast
Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.