Comfortably Numb or Fully Alive? The Power You Buried
Good, not great, fine. If that is your whole emotional range, the same clamp holding your grief down is holding your desire down, and you cannot read your way out.
Anxiety, Depression & Numbing
Anxiety, depression and numbing look like three separate problems, and in a man's body they are usually one. Something happened that your system could not fully process, so it clamped down, and the clamp is nonselective. It does not only hold the grief. It holds your desire and your aliveness right alongside it. That is why so many men describe their whole emotional range as good, not great, fine. None of this replaces clinical care, and Jason Lange says so directly on the show. It is the layer underneath it, the work your body is doing all day long that talk alone has not reached.
If you landed here, you may be running the same loop at 3am, or reaching for something every evening just to take the edge off. "How to Stop Ruminating" covers three ways to break the cycle instead of arguing with it. "Comfortably Numb or Fully Alive? The Power You Buried" goes straight at the clamp. "Shadow Work for Depression" has Dr. Luke Adler and Jason on the anger stuck underneath with nowhere to go, and "The Herky-Jerky Lizard" names the twitchy scanning state you may have been living in for years. Episodes below.
Every Anxiety, Depression & Numbing episode
How to Stop Freezing
Fight gets respect, flight at least looks like motion, and freeze just looks like you left the room. What happens in your body when your throat closes, and how to get moving again.
Shadow Work for Anxiety & Worry (with Luke Adler)
Worry feels like productivity right up until you notice nothing got decided. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into living from the shoulders up, and the discharge patterns underneath it.
Shadow Work for Depression (with Luke Adler)
Depression in men often has anger stuck underneath it with nowhere to go. Dr. Luke Adler and I get into the physiology of that stuckness and what starts the movement again.
3 Ways Men Disconnect (and the Fix)
Three disconnections sit under most of the flatness men bring me, and the first one is from your own body. What each looks like, and the way back from each.
Three Things Stealing Your Energy
Three drains account for most of the tiredness sleep does not touch, and holding your feelings in is one of them. What each one costs you and how to plug it.
How to Stop Ruminating
Your mind runs the same loop, or your heart runs the same feeling, and neither one counts as thinking. Three ways to break the cycle instead of arguing with it.
Why Men Think So Much (with Luke Adler)
I just want to understand this is often a way to not feel it. Dr. Luke Adler and I on the fear that seals your head off from your heart and guts.
The Courage to Feel (with Luke Adler)
You followed the script, it worked, and there is still an undercurrent you cannot name. Dr. Luke Adler and I on dropping below the noise and letting yourself feel it.
Breaking Free from Stagnation (with Luke Adler)
Stuck has a physiology, and Dr. Luke Adler can tell you what stagnation does inside a body. Where the numbness starts, and what actually gets things moving again.
The Importance of Doing Your Emotional Work
A lot of what you are calling stress is emotion you have not processed yet. Building the vocabulary to name what you feel, and what that does for your energy.
Three Keys to Regain Your Center
Some days you wake up off and cannot say why. Three keys for getting your center back, starting with the one your senses respond to fastest, which is nature.
The Herky-Jerky Lizard
A lizard on a deck jerked its head left, right, up, down, and I recognized the rhythm. What that twitchy scanning state is doing to you all day long.
What to Do When You Want to Withdraw
The hardest two weeks of your life are usually the two weeks you stop showing up. What to do when everything in you says go quiet and handle it alone.
The Problem with Porn
Set the morality argument aside for an hour. What porn does to your arousal and your attention is the part worth looking at, and I have my own history here.
How to Handle Stress
Kelly McGonigal's research says your belief about stress changes what stress does to your body. Mindset and resources, and why other men are the resource most men skip.
One of the Biggest Mental Health Mistakes Men Make
Running the same thought for three hours is not feeling anything. The difference between ruminating and actually feeling it, and why so many men hide in their heads.
WHEN LISTENING ISN’T ENOUGH
The work behind the podcast
Most of what Jason talks about here gets practiced somewhere else, with other men, over months. That’s what the programs are for.