Fatherhood & Lineage

This is not parenting advice. What a man passes to his kids is mostly not what he says, it is his nervous system, and kids read that with total accuracy. You snap at your daughter over something small, watch her face change, and you know in your own body that the charge did not start with her. It came down the line. Jason Lange works with men on both ends of that lineage at once: what got handed to you by your father and his father before him, and what is moving through you toward your own children right now. The wound was handed to you. The work on it is still yours.

If you are here, you may be doing considerably better than your father did and still catching yourself using his voice. "Daddy Has Tantrums Too" is about where that charge comes from and where to put it when your family is not the place. "What's the Emotional Age of Your Anger?" has Alistair Moes on how old you actually are in the moment anger fires. "The Father Energy We All Need" covers the challenge most men never received, and "Father & Son Rites of Passage" follows boys and their dads into the woods with no screens. Episodes below.