I just had the pleasure of joining Richard on The Men of the House Podcast to talk about something I'm deeply passionate about: men's groups and why they matter so much right now.
We dove into my own journey, how I ended up in this work. Growing up, I had a lot of privilege in terms of basic security, but what was missing was emotional and physical connection. That showed up big time when I hit puberty. I'd freeze around girls I was attracted to, my nervous system would go haywire, and I realized I was just uncomfortable in my body most of the time. That discomfort eventually led me to philosophy, therapy, and then in my mid-20s, I stumbled into my first men's group. That's when things really started to shift for me.
Richard and I spent a lot of time unpacking what I call "the man box," this cultural set of expectations about what it takes to be considered a man. The thing is, those old rules don't work anymore. It's no longer enough to just provide financially and stay emotionally shut down. Women don't need that from us the same way they used to, and honestly, our kids never needed that version of us. What's being asked for now is presence, emotional availability, and the capacity to show up in our inner worlds, not just the outer world of work and achievement.
We also talked about what a men's group actually is. It's not just guys getting together to watch sports or drink and forget about life. It's about gathering to become more conscious, to slow down, connect with what we're actually feeling, and support each other in growing toward the lives we really want. That includes holding each other accountable, calling each other forward when we're not showing up for what we say matters most.
If you're a man feeling stuck, isolated, or just hungry for something deeper, I'd encourage you to find or start a men's group. It's been one of the most transformative things in my life. If you want help with that or want to explore working together, just head to evolutionarymen.com.
