There's a brutal paradox at the heart of modern masculinity: the very stoicism that society teaches us makes us strong is the same force quietly killing us through isolation and disconnection. I had a powerful conversation on Vulnerability Time about this tension, diving deep into men's mental health and the loneliness epidemic that's claiming lives at an alarming rate.
We got into some real stuff. How men are dying from isolation at alarming rates. How most of us weren't trained to be vulnerable or even have basic emotional vocabulary beyond "good, bad, and fine." How we're sold this myth of the lone wolf when the truth is, that wolf is the one who got kicked out of the pack and will die sooner.
I shared some of my own journey growing up in a family with zero skill around emotional connection or physical touch. How I spent years numbing out with alcohol and porn because I didn't know how to handle what was going on inside me. How getting into men's work and somatic therapy changed everything.
What really lit me up was talking about why men's groups work. Not just for the feel-good stuff, but because connected men literally do better. Better health outcomes, better relationships, more money, longer lives. If I told you there's a pill that gives you all that, you'd take it. But if I say sit down with another man and tell him what's not going well in your life, most guys run.
The stats are brutal. 80% of suicide deaths are men. Loneliness is as dangerous as smoking a pack a day. And it's getting worse with social media, AI chatbots, work from home. But here's the thing: it doesn't take much to shift this. A couple of solid guys you can get real with changes everything.
If you're curious about experiencing what a real men's group is like, I run a virtual program a couple times a year. You can check it out at mensgroup.group or just head to my website at evolutionarymen.com to learn more about the work I do.
