I just wrapped up a conversation on The Sane and Miraculous podcast that took me right back to where this all started for me. You know, growing up in a house where people just kind of existed together without much real connection, I had no idea how to belong, with women or with men. What got me on this path, honestly, was music. Lightning Crashes came on the radio when I was a kid, and something in me just felt. That led me to Ken Wilber's work, which gave me my first real map for growth, and eventually to Boulder, where I found my first men's group.
We talked about where we are as a culture right now, this moment where shared reality feels like it's fracturing, where technology is pulling us further apart just as we need connection most. And I shared what I've learned working with hundreds of men at this point: most guys don't even know how much they're craving masculine love. They're trying to get all their needs met through relationships with women, not realizing there's a whole other kind of nourishment available in male community. When men finally experience being seen and held by other men, it changes everything.
The thing that keeps showing up in my own life and in the work I do is simple. Every man needs a men's group. If every guy had eight to ten men who genuinely gave a shit about him, who tracked him and held him accountable, the ripple effects would be massive. Healthy men create healthy relationships, and healthy relationships raise healthier kids. That's where real cultural change happens.
If you're feeling that pull toward deeper connection with other men, check out what we're doing at evolutionarymen.com. We run groups, retreats, and programs specifically designed to help men show up differently in their lives.
