I showed up on this podcast and got real about one of the most painful moments of my life. The moment on a date in my mid-20s when a woman I liked pushed me away and I completely collapsed into shame. That rejection became a doorway into men's work that changed everything.
We talked about how that breakdown led me to my first men's circle, where I ended up on the floor crying like a child, finally touching the neglect and lack of connection I'd carried since I was young. That was the beginning of actually taking responsibility for my pain instead of staying stuck as a victim of it.
The conversation moved through how men's groups carried me through the next decade. Meeting every other week with guys who had my back while I navigated career changes, relationships, and eventually discovering my daughter Ruby was profoundly deaf right before the world shut down in 2020. Having those men around me, especially during that crisis, was everything.
We got into the loneliness epidemic hitting men right now and why real community with real nervous systems matters more than ever. The culture keeps dangling chatbots and fake connection in front of lonely men, but what we actually need is other men who know us and care about us. Men's groups give us both belonging and purpose. They're where we stop pretending we have it all together and start getting real about what's actually happening inside.
If you're a man feeling isolated or stuck, go to evolutionarymen.com. You'll find my podcast, free resources, and ways to plug into men's work. Even if it's not one of my groups, I can point you in the right direction. Every man deserves this kind of support.
